About 1 1/2 years ago my grandson started acting out. It has now become so bad and we need to get him under control.
First off I will say that my grandson lives with his mother as his mother and father are no longer together. They split up long before he started acting out.
We are a loud family. We all shout and talk so loudly at times. My daughter raises her voice most all the time when she is trying to get a point across to anyone including my grandson. My daughter historically has not spent quality time with him. She has not and does not do anything more than necessary in things that I feel are very important. I believe she should have been doing more with him in the last couple of years than she has. Like working with him to get him ready for kindergarten. He is now on his second year of kindergarten.
Anyway, we are at the point where he constantly yells, cries and screams at the top of his lungs. He kicks, hits, scratches, bites, etc. He is a very angry little boy. He screams "I hate you", "you're an idiot", "get out of my house", "get away from me", etc. Then two minutes later he will tell you that he loves you.
He does have some medical issues....like reflux, asthma, allergies, etc. He has ADHD and also ODD. I fear that all the medications that he is taking could be having an effect on him. He started on behavior medication over a year ago. They have since switched him to Abilify a few months ago since he was trying to harm others (hitting, biting, kicking). When he gets sick and he has to take steroids, it is even worse. Also, it seems that when he has to take an antibiotic that his bad behavior escalates ever more.
We use time out, which he typically won't stay seated. He constantly yells NO when given instructions to do something. We have tried taking toys, etc. away from him and he does not care.
I love my grandson so much and I am so worried that if he is not gotten under control soon, that this is going to lead to a lifetime of problems.
There is so much more to this but I know there is not enough room to keep going on. Any advice or words of wisdom would be greatly appreciated.
Also, I feel that my daughter's lack of parental skills and her emotional outbursts have contributed to this so much, but I can not get her to agree to help for herself.
Lastly, my grandson is 100% opposite while at school. He is the most polite, laid back, easy going child you could ask for :)