I've heard that cloth diapers encourage a child to not soil themselves, as they are less comfortable than disposable diapers, and that this leads to being potty trained quicker. Is this true?
As a mother of three (for 20 years) and daycare provider for over 10 years here is the best way that I can answer this, and any other potty training/diaper question.
Potty training has NOTHING to do with diapers, cloth or disposable. Potty training is about your individual child's readiness and consistent parental guidance.
I've seen so many different styles of potty training that what I have learned is there is only one truly effective way to make potty training non-dramatic and do-able. You wait till THE CHILD IS READY and then COMMIT TO THE PROCESS. No diapers, no pull-ups, no drama. You stay home for a long weekend and potty train your child when he/she shows the signs of being ready.
So, to answer your questions more definitely, use which ever type of diapering option works best for you and your family. Not because it might help potty training later...which wont even happen for 2-3 years anyway :)
I hope this helps. Have a great day!! DTRoman-Daycare Provider
While I don’t feel that cloth diapers make for earlier potty learning, i do think that really good disposables can hinder self awareness a bit. Things are kept so dry, it muddles up some “cause and effect” understanding for young kids.
I would add a few bits of unsolicited advice, toss it or take it.
Don’t confuse “what till their ready” for the more appropriate “wait till their are able” the later happens much younger than modern society tends to think and there are signs if you know what to look for. See #3 for how to learn what to look for.
Don’t hold off because you aren’t ready. This sounds silly, but honestly it happens all the time. Often it’s easier to just change a diaper than take the time to teach a skill. But strike while the irons hot, drop everything, catching them when they seem interested can mean the entire process is a breeze compared to other times. I could have killed one of my twins for “deciding” it was time in the middle of a freezing hectic winter, rather than a nice spring I was aiming for, but damn, she was right, and it went blinding fast for her, honestly I take no credit but that I went with it.
I highly recommend reading ‘Oh Crap, Potty Training’ its a frankly funny and smart book. I recommend it for all parents and recommend reading when the kids about 1 year old. It’s great because it talks about various methods, myths and the pitfalls so many folks find themselves in. Learn them now before they come up. No matter if you do her method, or some other, or a modified blend of a few, how she explains things will help you understand a lot of the “why” rather than just shoving “do this” and “that is wrong” at you.
Lastly, don’t invite more stress, limit who you discuss it with while you are actually going thru it. 1/3rd of parents will flat out lie about how easy it was for them, and I’m sure another 1/3rd will tell you they did one thing when they really did something else when no one was looking. It’s just what parents do, most don’t even mean to.
Shit happens, and this too shall pass.