My 19 yr old niece has come from overseas to study, and lives with us. I have two small sons, and my niece one minute loves them the next minute shuts them out.
She has come from a not so loving family where she even now believes my husband is just like her father and won't talk to us much. Her other aunt and uncle who live a state away constantly tell her that if she were there with them she would be pampered. Today my niece has come to study and get a better life but after getting a job and going to a good college she doesn't want to try to be independent or learn to be an adult, as her other aunt and uncle keep promising dreams to her.
My husband and I feel like we should send her to them. They constantly brag that they know how to deal with mood swings, her tantrums, her isolating herself and that she doesn't behave like that with them when she visits for a holiday. We feel like we're losing our minds trying to cope with her behavior and its effects on our sons. We feel absolutely lost and don't know what to do.