My friend is in a dilemma, his has caught his 8 year boy googling the the words "beauty sex" , the child has grown in a very good environment and his parents are conservative, he even misspelt the word "beauty" as "beaty" because of his young age. He has two brothers and they have a very good behaviour He has some sort of ADHD which will make my friends job even more difficult to talk to him.


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There is nothing worrying about an 8 year old being interested in what sex is. And in the kind of world an 8 year old lines in, searching for an explanation on the internet is something that probably just came to his mind when he wanted to know more. Unless there's other indications (like sexually aggressive behavior) there is nothing wrong with an 8 year old being interested in the topic.

Most children aged six to eight will: Look to peers, media, and other sources for information about sex


For comparison: at 8, I had already had basic sex education at school (in Germany). I knew anatomical terms, knew roughly what a period was (I am female, but all of this was taught to all students), knew sex was what causes pregnancy, the basics of pregnancy, and had seen schematic drawings of sex, including an erect penis.

The best thing your friend can do is talk to his son about sex in an age-appropriate way, answer his questions as best as she can (or find someone else to talk to him - maybe the other parent, if one is in his life), but also tell him that the internet is not the best place to look for information for sex. It is way too easy to accidentally be exposed to something she wouldn't want him exposed to like that. This is a nice article about sex education for school aged children, but there's a lot more websites and books out there. This is a short article about what knowledge is often taught to children at what age

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    Good answer! This is indeed a pretty normal activity; it's the modern version of looking up sex and other "naughty" words in the dictionary. (Unfortunately, the Internet can be MUCH more informative than the average dictionary.)
    – Acire
    Nov 8, 2015 at 13:52
  • @Erica and more graphic ;-) although my books about sexuality as a child were quite explicit they weren't that explicit
    – YviDe
    Nov 8, 2015 at 18:03
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    Great answer. There is nothing wrong with a child's curiosity - this is a chance to engage in good, positive, education
    – Jon Story
    Nov 8, 2015 at 21:18

I would say that yes, you do have a very good concern. His googling "sex" will only escalate to other things- pornography (which will be seen if googling sex). Pornography is actually clinically addictive, and as a male myself you have no idea how viewing- even a single time- really affects your whole thinking process. If I were you, I would get a great parental program. What I have on my computer (and it free, no I'm not soliciting) is k9 blue coat. it's free, and works great. I strongly recommend this for your older sons too.

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    Your solution only works on your computer, and so forces your children to look up these things where you're not able to watch. How do you handle them doing the same search on someone else's machine?
    – user11394
    Nov 9, 2015 at 4:41
  • In fact the boy used an iPad
    – Ulkoma
    Nov 9, 2015 at 6:32
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    This sounds like it could be a useful party of a broader set of actions to take -- or do you really feel it's as simple as installing parental controls on the computer and moving on?
    – Acire
    Nov 9, 2015 at 10:50
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    Googling "sex" does not necessarily mean that the kid is interested in or will discover pornography. It's possible - even probable - that he just wants to know more, which is not only normal, but very, very healthy! The appropriate response isn't to try to cut off a behavior that hasn't even begun to be a problem, but instead to talk to him and give him a healthy, frank understanding of sex.
    – Kevin
    Nov 9, 2015 at 20:27
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    @JeremyH - you can influence and set the tone before any uncontrollable "source of information" gives a wrong idea. Children are naturally curious. If we supply the answers, we can choose how they are phrased and include our values and beliefs.
    – Stephie
    Nov 10, 2015 at 19:44

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