My wife had her first doctor's appointment and it took exactly 15 minutes. Is that ok?
It depends on a lot of factors.
The first pre-natal visit (that's what they're called) with an obstetrician should be at least half an hour long, unless your wife saw a trained associate of the obstetrician before that visit, who gathered all the information common on the first visit and did a routine physical exam. Such a person could be a nurse, a nurse practitioner, a physician's assistant, or some other associate. The information would be reviewed by the obstetrician at or before the time of the visit.
On that visit, your wife should have been checked for fetal heart sounds as well (by someone.) That's not an ultrasound - though they're often done as well - but rather a small doppler device with an amplifier that detects the beating of the baby's heart.
If someone else gathered the information and did an exam (including Pap and pelvic, maybe screening for STDs as well) and nothing was noted to be wrong, the first visit with the doctor usually consists of reassurance that the results were fine, some "getting to know each other" chit-chat, and most importantly, *"Do you have any questions for me?" The physician should be especially sensitive to the patient if it's her first pregnancy or if she's had any miscarriages.
Questions common on the first visit:
- Have you thought of a birth plan?
- Is there anything you want to discuss about your prenatal testing?
- Do you want to be tested for Down Syndrome, birth defects or certain genetic conditions?
- Are you planning to breastfeed/take Lamaze classes/etc.?
- Do you have any problems with any of my partners potentially delivering your baby?
If there were no questions (often people don't have questions because they don't know what to ask), information about pregnancy - what's normal and what's not - can be given in the form of handouts, as well as a prescription for prenatal vitamins.
I was hoping he would talk to me...
If you weren't in the room, I (as someone doing the prenatal visit) would think the patient was there alone. Asking you to accompany your wife on the visit is an assistant's job.
I am curious if... I should switch doctor.
If none of the above happened? I would think that was a wise move.
Your first prenatal visit
Do Providers Adhere to ACOG Standards? The Case of Prenatal Care.
Evidence-Based Prenatal Care: Part I. General Prenatal Care and Counseling Issues