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Age of my sister's daughter is 3 and half years. From her berth itself she was very active and played with us usually. Last month my sister delivered a new baby and so our family members are very busy taking care of the new child so no one is playing with the first child. One day her school teacher called my sister and informed that she is not normal like other children.

Even though there are so many children in the class room, she is playing alone and speaking with wall which looks abnormal for us. In our home also she is playing and speaking alone. Is this a normal behavior for a 3 and half year child? Will this become a serious issue? One thing we noticed is She don't like her new brother as her mom spending most of the time with the new baby only.

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First off: if the teacher is concerned, it's probably worth talking to your pediatrician and possibly getting a referral to a child psychologist. Two paragraphs aren't enough for anyone to evaluate your niece, and an in person evaluation may be appropriate. Your sister should talk to the teacher in more detail (or her husband, or you, or whomever is most often there at the school) to find out more specifics, write them down, and take them to the doctor.

However, what you're describing above is not necessarily particularly abnormal. It is very normal for children, particularly first children, to have significant adjustment periods to new siblings. She went from 100% parental attention to ~30%, overnight. Regardless of the amount of work her parents put in to help her understand this would happen, it's completely impossible for her to have thought this out ahead of time.

That adjustment can take all sorts of forms, but it seems entirely reasonable to me that one adjustment she might make is to learn how to play by herself. She's still 3, so still in the range where parallel play is common; some kids around 3.5 do learn to play with others but some don't until 4 or a bit later (in my experience). It's also common to have "invisible friends", which the wall may well be in this case, at this age; this helps children work out socialization, which can be difficult to learn with others who also don't understand it very well!

I would suggest that her parents (And you, to whatever extent you're involved) simply continue trying to make her feel wanted and welcome. Find ways to get her "alone" time with one or both parents. Talk to her about her feelings. Read some other questions on this site and elsewhere about how to help older siblings cope with their new sibling. She will pull through this, and figure out what her new 'normal' is.

  • Just now I read this answer to my sister and she is impressed with this answer and decided to talk with the teacher more specific. Really a good advice @Joe – Sathiya Kumar Sep 30 '15 at 5:54

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