My 20-year-old step-granddaughter's father left when she was nine and my husband and I have been there for both of them before, during and after all of their crises, so perhaps I feel more like we are co-parenting them both.
This year, my step-granddaughter's birthday fell on Father's Day. That day, she had a tantrum, because she wanted to family singing when others were going to watch her grandfather's Father's Day gift, a comedy DVD.
She grabbed the DVD out of the machine and threw it across the room and it landed on the sofa next to her grandfather. I told her to pick that up "right now". Her mother rushed in from the kitchen and said "No one yells at my daughter on her birthday!"
After years of BS from these two I had had it and got up and walked out. We will never get the the apology we deserve, I am sure. But I will never be as forgiving, generous and lenient as I have in the past, either.
My husband got a lame text from his daughter with an "I miss you" the following week... nothing else.
I am looking for suggestions on other ways to react or know if my reaction was valid. Anybody knows a better reaction?