We were taking a great family vacation and on the way back, a stranger asked my 6-year old daughter if my girlfriend was her mom. She said "no, this is Ema, who lives with us." Both of them ended up feeling embarrassed by the situation and a bit hurt.
So we're having a family discussion about this. My daughter and Ema both love each other a lot, but she's not a "step-mom" yet, and doesn't want to be called "mom" either to keep the relationship names clear. So Ema just wants to be called "Ema."
Of course this will come up, so we all want to figure out if there are some good names or phrases that avoid "mom" in the description.
My suggestion was simply that Bella could say "this is Ema" and leave the relationship ambiguous. After all, it's a stranger, and they don't need to know the details. What matters most is that they care about each other. Suggestions?