I have a 2-year-old toddler who is happy going and social.
Our maid's 10 year old son came with her and sat in the drawing room. Toddler was playing nearby. I told her to say hello to the boy and play with him. She agreed happily after being told the same a second time.
She started pointing to him and saying "Bhaiya" (referred to a male elder to you but younger than your father), repeatedly. He didn't respond.
She kept on showing him her toys. He didn't respond.
She wanted him to come over the other room to show (introduce) him to me. So, she repeatedly said "Bhaiya come" to him, and kept on running back and forth to him to see if he's coming or not. He didn't respond.
I was observing all this from the other room. On seeing the plight of my daughter, I jumped in the scene and started talking to her and paying attention to her so that she wouldn't feel ignored. I told her to pick up certain toy and show it to the boy which she did. Boy responded by just holding the toy. I kept on continuously responding to the toddler so that she didn't feel that she was talking to walls.
The daughter started crying when the boy left.
The boy is a villager and was shy. He is not to be blamed.
My question here is that in such situations should I:
- pretend to be deaf and blind and let the toddler learn the lesson that everyone may not be friendly towards her even if she is towards them?
- jump in the situation to heal the toddler's hurt feelings?
I am not very keen on knowing how to deal with that boy or how to start a communication with that boy and my child.
Reason is that that boy was just one case. There can be cases where the person with whom my toddler wants to interact may not be interested in interacting either because they are tired or they are busy or they are not interested or shy or uncomfortable or whatever.
Her father is usually busy in scrolling Twitter. He doesn't respond before the child yells at him minimum 4 times. Even when he responds, he says "Haaan" and continues scrolling Twitter.
Creating an interest in the other person is not my problem, I think.
I need to know how to deal with my child, not with the other person.