I live in the USA, my son lives in the Netherlands. He has two little girls aged 5 years and 6 years respectively. My adult daughter, who doesn't have children herself, is visiting them at this time.
My daughter shared a few details of these little girls' behavior. She told me these little girls scream at her and cover their ears when she talks to them. They are apparently very mean and ugly toward her. She did however mention that on the few occasions that she has been alone with them, they mind her and are quite sweet. So, I believe she will have the survival skills to deal with them.
She also said that the 5-year-old throws tantrums and when her mother tried to console her with a hug, she proceeded to kick, bite and scratch her mother. Apparently, both parents don't think this is a big deal. In the meantime, my daughter found out that their maternal grandmother has refused to babysit them. They have a long weekend planned in Germany and my daughter told them she will not go because she can't stand their behavior.
Their behavior is clearly causing a rift between family. They suggested that my daughter babysit them this weekend and see if she can find a bond with the girls. Letting her babysit will probably escalate these little girls' behavior. On the other hand, I can't help feeling they are using her as a free baby sitter, with little regard to the fact that neither of them will take responsibility to check their children's behavior.
When I learnt that the 5-year-old gets away with kicking, biting and scratching her mother it causes me great concern. One thing that I told my daughter strongly is never to question their skills as parents. I did this on a few occasions and the results were not pretty.
Does anyone have suggestions for her survival with these girls until she gets back home to the USA? These are my granddaughters and I am very stressed about what I hear and their emotional health.