My granddaughter has lived with us (her grandparents) since she was 8 months. She is now four. My daughter and granddaughter have been with us for two and a half years My daughter has been out of the picture for over a year due to drugs. We are in the adoption process now. She has been calling my husband and me "mommy and daddy" for over a year. We were told whatever she is comfortable using.
My question is, just recently she refers to her mother as her other mommy and where is she. What do we say to her? Once adopted, there will be no contact unless her mother turns her life around. At this point she gets to see her for one hour, supervised, once a week.
We want our granddaughter to have the best chance in life and want to say the right thing to her when she asks this question.