I'm UK based and have 6 children:
- Child 1: female, has a formal diagnosis of autism, NF1.
- Child 2: male, has a formal diagnosis of Asperger's, also has other health problems. Both children present in stark contrasts but also some similarities.
- Children 3, 4: females, late talkers but could understand me and gestured accordingly so I was not worried.
- Child 5: male, is worrying me. He is 22 months old, has no speech whatsoever, not even the 'typical' mumma, dadda, etc. He does baby babble but most of his verbal communication is via intense high pitched screaming and head banging - he will dive into me head first full pelt. He does not gesture (i.e., point, wave) nor does he appear to understand what is being said to him ("get cup", "get shoes"). He will very rarely answer to his name.
He hates baths, hair washing, haircuts and being in car seats and pushchairs, and point blank refuses to wear any kind of shoes even in winter (wants to be bare foot.) He also 'flaps' certain types of objects like laces, necklaces, things of that kind and if the momentum of the 'flap' is not right he has a massive screaming fit. He also hates our living room rugs corners to be out of place and gets angry if there is normal house mess like toys on the floor.
He has a lot of toys but does not play with them in a usual way and does not sustain interest in them even if I play cars with him - he will spin the wheels then chuck the car and walk away. He also has a permanent comfort blanket and bites it and also has a massive habit of biting me really hard.
He spins and rocks a lot as well. He can scream for hours for no obvious reason (common reasons checked for to no avail - hungry, thirsty, nappy, hurt, sick, bored, needs a cuddle etc.) He hates certain noises like raised voices and baby crying and will be very distressed by this.
He has had severe reflux which was medicated via hospital and though now has resolved (unless he is ill) he has massive feeding problems, hates solid foods and will only have limited foods. He is under hospital care for this but no progress so far, he has never had a solid poo.
He was also in hospital over the winter for breathing problems and very low O2. He walked and sat on time. He plays alongside siblings mainly sometimes with but will not instigate any play.
I have requested to see a speech and language therapist but I am being given the run around. He was a very wanted child, he is loved by myself, husband and his siblings and we make sure he is not left out.
I have had so many years of fighting with officials in regard to my older children so this time we have been proactive in seeking help when we have noticed issues with this child, but as I said we keep getting fobbed off. I would like to hear someone else's opinion on what they think could be if anything as it would be nice to know I'm not losing my remaining one brain cell!
I am not looking for a diagnosis, google diagnosis or using this in place of medical care or for any stupid reason (child is under hospital and dietician care). I'm purely seeking well intentioned advice and opinion.