9 year old cries every time she is dropped off at school because she wants to be with her daddy and has a strange feeling about leaving him. She doesn't want to go to school at all because she will be away from him. Any help?
I don't think you have enough information. I suggest bringing it up during a quiet time -- after reading a bedtime story always worked well for me -- and ask her about it. "Honey, I notice that..." Then listen and empathize with her. One you fully understand and have shown her that you fully understand, then you can talk about how to make things better.
I highly recommend Stephen Covey's 4th "habit": Seek First To Understand, Then To Be Understood. It's been a godsend for me when talking about sensitive issues with my kids.
All children experience some degree of separation anxiety. It can come in different shapes, forms and intensities at different times.
What can help:
play peekaboo, hide and seek, etc.
prepare the child for the separations.
pick a day (once a week or once a month) for a special father - daughter outing or project.
model a better way of expressing the feelings, such as, when the father comes home in the evening, say, "We missed you! We were sad!"
don't sweep the child's feelings under the rug. That can backfire, and get you an even greater intensity of feeling. Remember that everyone is entitled to experience whatever feelings they have.
help the child work on expressing feelings with expressive words. A variety of feelings -- not just panic about father leaving.
Forgive me if the above are already obvious!
There are screening sheets your doctor can give you that can help evaluate your child's general mental health, to see if there's more going on than just the tearful good-byes. It might also be possible to do some screening at school.
Lastly, I suggest you do some observing of your child in school. This can really help you figure things out when there's something about your child's behavior that you don't understand.