15 year old teen boy in question.
Generally good kid but minor annoyances here and there
coming & going without saying hello (sometimes).
missing please/thank you (sometimes).
speaking courteously to parents (2/3 times in general, particularly to mum).
concentrating on study during study time rather than multitasking chat + study.
By boomerang effect the meaning was, we tend to micromanage him a little, and as he grows older are finding it is starting to just bounce off him and the harder we try the more it just comes back in the opposite direction like a boomerang.
He gets frustrated when told off and says stop lecturing me & clearly wants to be left to his own devices in terms of studies and other areas but we are just trying to help.
How do you balance telling a kid what to do vs developing their character to be self sufficient?
He has this year & next to finish highschool and get university entrance so we are really pressuring him to study as much as possible to get accepted into whichever degree he chooses (currently undecided but likes science field).
He has bursts where he will study a lot, then cools off and does very little. It's inconsistent.
Any good articles on this?