If a son of about 14 years old, using his laptop to do schoolwork, secretly plays video games instead, should it be the parent's responsibility to find this out and stop him?

If the son finds it hard to resist playing video games when he should be doing homework, how (without getting in too much trouble!) can he talk to his parents about this issue and get help from his parents in developing the self-discipline he needs to get his schoolwork done?

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    You have a son while being only 14 yourself? Or is it that you want us to enumerate ways you could be caught? (If so, you might want to try Superuser.com.) – sbi Feb 1 '15 at 0:12
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    You have another recent question about preventing parental divorce, so I'm as confused as @sbi – Acire Feb 1 '15 at 2:19
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    @Erica in light of the previous question, I half suspect Bob is trying to covertly fish for advice in how to subvert parental controls. – Dan Is Fiddling By Firelight Feb 1 '15 at 3:25
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    I've heavily edited the question to make it more suitable for this site and to bring out what I think is the subtext. Revert if not happy. ;) – A E Feb 1 '15 at 10:40
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    Is it common that the OP also votes to close the question as "unclear what's being asked" ? – woliveirajr Feb 2 '15 at 12:49

There is research on the benefits of gaming, and the parents should read it. If the child doesn't know about it, he can do some research and supply it to the parents.

If the son can calmly and politely explain his reasoning for wanting to play games, and demonstrate that he's done the research into why gaming can be good, then he may change his parents' minds.

If the parents allow their child to openly play video games, for a limited time, then they'd likely be eliminating their son's need for subversive behavior. Since he'd be allowed access to his laptop at times other than when doing homework, he'd be able to play without cutting into his homework time.

One of the import things the son will have to do as part of this discussion is show that he can get his homework done without it being an issue. If he's currently having trouble getting his homework done, his parents aren't likely going to "reward" him with video games. He needs to demonstrate a level of maturity that shows he's willing to work for the things he wants.

A great way to get homework done is to specifically schedule time in your day to work on your homework. Work somewhere that's as free of distractions as you can, and plan on doing homework.

While working on homework, break it up into manageable sections. You don't have to do everything in one straight block. Pick a goal that will take 15-20 minutes. Once you've finished that goal, take break: read some Facebook or Twitter, get up and walk, get a drink, watch a short YouTube video, whatever you're allowed to do. Then, after a couple minutes, get back to the homework and set another short goal.

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    Allow me to compliment you to answering this question the way you did. +1 from me for answering the real question behind what was asked. – sbi Feb 2 '15 at 16:10

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