I'm very frustrated at this moment.
I have 2 sweet sons (7 and 2 years old), and especially now during the winter holidays (we're all at home together, no school/kindergarden) we could do a lot of nice things together, but it's nearly impossible with them as they are dawdling and do not get ready for anything.
It starts in the morning - I want them to have a quick breakfast/toilet/bathroom for getting ready for activities.
Instead they start playing something, ignore me, if they then finally are sitting for breakfast, it them takes ages to finish and it's nearly lunch time, until they are ready for doing something else.
The same with getting dressed for going outside (especially time consuming in fall/winter time, if it's cold or wet outside) or even getting dressed in the morning: it takes a very long time and drives me mad each time. And you can imagine that there are many other daily things to do, where we have similar problems.
I'm sure they/we absolutely need outdoor activities with fresh air/running around etc. And we do much too few of it because I just don't have the energy/motivation to push the children getting ready.
My frustration is constantly increasing and I'm now at a point where I think: I say once what nice things we could do today. If then they are not motivated enough to get help getting ready by themselves, we just don't do the activity.
As I said that finally leads to all of us staying at home mostly, the children are playing "something" for themselves and I'm feeling frustrated and incapable of having nice activities together with my children.
And for sure it also leads to conflicts, as they have a lot of extra energy, they can't get rid of playing inside.
I think that such things can also lead to vicious circles as children might sense that their parents are not satisfied/ happy and then show strange (and unfortunately often "bad" behavior) as a response which makes things even worse.
I had a similar question some months before 6yo wears down people by dawdling and endless discussions - how can parents help?, the current one is more about how I can get a positive attitude for myself, as I see that I'm already expecting their un-cooperatice behavior and very quickly will just resign and stop/avoid any outdoor activities with them.