My wife is having a real hard time with my son lately. After his afternoon nap he will almost immediately get really whiny and then go into full blown crying for hours. She is a stay at home Mum so she has to face this 5 days a week every week.
Trouble is I don't see it, the minute I get home he perks up and gets really happy and playful.
He's been fed, nappy changed, dry clothes, had a good nap and has a supply of water. And none of his teeth seem to be coming through but that is so far our best guess.
We know that he has a milk intolerance and it has all the hallmarks of him accidentally consuming milk but we are so careful with his food, I am concerned he might have another allergy. But have no idea what it could be.
There seems to be no way of comforting him either. Picking him up(even though he asks to be), putting him down, playing, singing, his favorite game/song/TV show.
The oddest thing is how scheduled it seems to be, always at the same time.
On a weekend I do sort of see it but I think he is better because I am there and he seems more receptive to my attempts to sooth him, she can do something and it have no effect whereas I will do the same thing and he might snap out of it.
He has also stopped enjoying morning cuddles with his mummy, which I think makes it worse for her. We tried sending her away for the weekend to see if perhaps he was just a bit too used to having her around. But this didn't seem to make much if any difference.
Does anyone have any clue of what might be going on? Surely this isn't normal!
I feel I neglected to update this the first time round and as he is nearly 5 I probably should!
I will be honest and say we never really got to the bottom of this, it just seemed to phase out after he started going to nursery more and getting used to being more "separated". He still has bad separation anxiety now and looking back I think this was him having an earlier, intense phase. Its come back bad recently with the death of my grandma and its something we are working through, we were lucky enough to get accepted into "play therapy" that he does at a local hospice which seems to have worked wonders even though i'm not sure what they do :). (to do so my wife did some research and contacted the hospice directly)
For anyone going through a similar experience, look into separation anxiety and find ways to gently introduce more separation. Looking back at this time, it was a hard time for us, we had not reached out to family and we never had him stay over / be baby sat by other people. It was probably after this time I discovered my Aunt and Uncle were super keen to babysit and he started staying over at their house and it definitely coincided with the behaviour more or less going away. We did it gently at first (I stayed over at there house with Archie the first time, then the next time I stayed in the house until late but left etc etc). Granted now he cries when he leaves them.
But in general now we only have to manage the actual leaving (me/mum/relatives/etc), my advice is make it fun with games, we do a rhyming goodbye game, see you later alligator, see you in the house, mouse etc).
As always consult medical professionals but sadly I think mental health, especially child mental health is not very well understood. You might get lucky though we have had some great new GPs lately who seem to have more information on outside programmes :)