Me being 22, I moved out a year ago (about half an hour drive away) to live with my girlfriend after I proposed too her.
I always (and believe I still do) had/have a good connection with my parents and experienced a good childhood, despite my parents having had to deal with a heavily handicapped and unfortunately now deceased son.
Since I moved out december last year I am the one who keeps asking ( about 1 time a month) when it suits my parents to meet again, so we can have a laugh a drink or anything else. Not once last year they asked me to come over neither did they ask if they could come over for a cup of coffee or anything else.
If they're going to do stuff with my family, for example they go for a walk or go bowling they don't invite us or me alone.
My dad called me once last year and my mom probably about 2 times. They do give the occasional whatsapp, but those are mostly: remember grandma's birthday or whatever.
I love my parents and I assume they think I am too busy (Working 42 hours a week, buying a house, preparing a wedding and taking care of my chronical sick girlfriend, so I am also running an household), but I'd love it if they would simply give me a call when they would go out bowling or visiting my grandparents.
It kind of hurts to see on Facebook that they do fun stuff with my brothers (23 and 15) who still live at home without even inviting me.
I would like some advice about how to approach them, because at the moment I do feel left out.
Response to questions given:
Q: Before you moved out, were they happy in your choice of a girlfriend/fiancee?
A: I believe they were
Q: Were they disappointed when you moved out?
A: I don't think so. They said they would miss me, but things never got emotional.
Q: Did they help you move?
A: Yes they did.
Q: Did they rely on you for anything when you lived there that they're having to do without now?
A: Only my presence
Q: In other words, can you think of any reason they might be upset with you for leaving them?
A: No I can't think of anything. The only thing I took was my own playstation and they gave us a refrigerator.
Q: Were they solicitous of your affections and attentions when you lived at home?
A: Yes they were. I could tell them anything and they told me more about their life as I got older (finances etc.)
Q: Did they really hear you when you spoke with them, and respect your opinions?
A: Yes they did. We were not any emotional wonders being a family of 4 men. But when I spoke up they listened
Q: Did you all go out together to do things everybody liked, or that just a few liked?
A: We did the occasional funfair or zoo. Sometimes they would go out walking and since that didn't tend be my thing I would stay home. But they always asked me.
P.S. It's kind of the same for my brothers. I barely see them and they barely ask me to meet them.
P.P.S. My parents in law do actually contact both of us to meet up, or ask for an occasional coffee/tea
P.P.P.S If this is not the right setup for this kind of question you are free to edit it or tell me in the comments.