I just heard about Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids by Dr. Laura Markham (on this site) and I started looking into it. I really like some of the things I've read about this approach to parenting, but I have some questions:
Does Dr. Markham actually recommend rewarding misbehavior? I can't find it now, but I read a customer review on Amazon that said something to the effect of "My life is so much better now. When my son hits my daughter, I just hug him and tell him I love him." I don't see how this could possibly reduce misbehavior. If anything, basic psychology says you can expect the misbehavior to increase.
Does Dr. Markham really say you should turn behavior problems into games?
In one example, a child wants the parent to move from a particular spot on the couch and the parent is supposed to make fun and games with the child... but not move from the spot... Another example is about spitting, instead of consequences for spitting in the house the solution was to take the child outside to make a game of spitting out there. (source)
This seems impractical to me. I barely have the energy to get my kid a drink, let alone take him outside for spitting contest. Also, I think this could lead to problems at school where it's just not possible to make games out of everything, or when I'm in the middle of something and can't.
I'm not necessarily looking for a product review, but I'm wondering about the approach itself.