My wife is pregnant with her 8th child. She has 3 from her first marriage, 2 more with another relation, and I married her and we have 2 more. She got pregnant while she has both an IUD and is on birth control.

We barely have enough money, we work a lot. She wants to keep this kid and I don't. All the kids range from 19, 18, 15, 10, 9, 5, 4.

I think it is irresponsible for us to have another kid when we have so many and it is difficult to raise these 7 kids, let alone have one more.

What can I do to change her mind?

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    That or opinion based; I can't see a useful objective answer here really. In particular, given she's already pregnant, this would be a highly inflammatory question if it's allowed to proceed.
    – Joe
    Nov 18, 2014 at 19:54
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    I can see opinion based, but not so sure about duplicate. I'd think an 8th child in a patchwork family is quite different from a 4th child in the same relationship. Nov 18, 2014 at 22:39
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    @microtherion - How to deal with it doesn't really matter if the family is mixed or not, does it? There are only so many things on can do. Nov 18, 2014 at 23:28
  • I would think that the family dynamics in a mixed family are different, and quite likely more complex, than in a non-mixed family. Nov 19, 2014 at 13:16
  • It doesn't matter if they're perfect duplicates; at the end of the day the best answers to that question are also good answers to this one.
    – Joe
    Nov 19, 2014 at 15:16


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