My 14 yo step daughter loves troubling us. I initially thought taking her side and spending time with her may improve the situation. But I guess, I was wrong . She loves breaking rules. She talks very rudely with us and also Will walk on the street without covering her face (niqab) , would chat with boys in the night (considered a taboo here). She even purposely left her sanitary pad with blood purposely on her bed and I had to clean it. I was trying to forgive her thinking, its just "teen behaviour".
But today she crossed all limits. I was feeding formula to my 11 month baby and my step daughter was sitting next to me chatting on her phone. Suddenly baby gagged and spit some drops from mouth which landed on step daughter's face. She got angry and went to the bathroom and came out with a mug of cold water and splashed it on my poor tiny baby's face. The baby got very scared. My poorchild is also feeling ill. I took her to hospital and HV said she has cold.
I came home and firmly told my step daughter what she did was wrong. To which she replied " I dont care". I said, "Baby could have choked" And she was like " Good. Its high time that dumb bub dies".
I can't stop crying Any suggestions on how to make my step daughter understand. She is very self centred and malicious. Also she loves blaming others. Can she be have Narcissism disorder ?
More Information: Just wanted to answer few questions... My step daughter's mother is my cousin. It was my cousin who left her husband and NOT vice versa, so I dont think there is any reason for the step daughter to feel any resentment towards me or my husband ( her father).
Her relationship with her mother is lovely but she doesn't think of me as her mother or even step mother.