My babies troubling me and each other . They are 11 mo twins . I have decided to put them in their separate cot into their rooms when they cry and come back to their room once they stop crying. Does this sound cruel ?
A lot of people try to ferberize their children and some studies have shown it has benefits. For the most part though when babies cry it's because there is a physiological need for them to cry, hunger, diaper or they need to bond with their mother. Leaving babies to cry when they are calling for their mother can form distrust toward the mother and cause anxiety and inability to handle stress in later adulthood. Also they may still be to young to understand what you're doing so it might not work very well right now, when their older (2-5) that would be a good time to try this. I have never had personal experience with this but my sister in law did it with her kids and it was terrible to watch.
When I analysed my situation, I understood it is just the stress and no sleep which made me come to this decision of putting babies in.a room and leaving them. I realised how cruel it is. Babies need me and I shouldn't disappoint them . I love them a lot and hope the situation turns better.