My three year old is 100% pee trained, even at night, but as with many little guys is not poop trained. We started him in underwear, partly because preschool encouraged it and partly because he pee trained better - and we hoped poop would come faster.
Nope. He's now in full resistance mode, ie, mommy sees him squatting, takes him into potty, he screams and stops pooping and then goes right afterwards in his underwear. (Yes, we know this wasn't the right thing to do.)
We're considering, as part of the process, asking him to clean up his own underwear when he has an accident. What are the benefits and/or downsides of such a process? How much should we expect him to clean up?
I saw in this question that 'first rinse' was recommended by some, but didn't see any explanation in the linked article what that entailed or why that was a good idea. Would that include him pulling down his pants/underwear, or is this more something we'd do for him and then say 'okay, rinse it in the sink now'?