Hey everyone I have a huge issue I need to talk about..
My 12 year old daughter has been going around having sex with MULTIPLE guys 8 to 10 years older than her and has gotten a STD. I'm worried she might be pregnant.
What do I do?
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Call the police.
Call child protective social services.
Some people may be confused about how the chold is getting access to these men. A ten year old child is not within eyesight all day. The parents may be as protective as they can be but they are no there all the time.
Grooming creates a psychologically very strong bond between the abuser and the victim. Sometimes people do not feel they are the victim of abuse. Sometimes it's hard to get police or child protective services involved - they may say things like "It's just bad parenting"; "the child is a willing child prostitute and there's nothing we can do". Attitudes like that are not acceptable. Parents want to protect their children from harm and they may need to push to get help. I include links from recent notorious cases in the UK where young girls told police and other services that they were being drugged and raped and the police and other services did nothing to protect those children.
Caution: these links contain descriptions of violent sexual attacks on young people.
"We have to remember that in most of those cases, the girls themselves did not regard themselves has victims and were not willing to make complaints and that is still the situation now," he said.
One father called Children's Social Care (CSC) up to 50 times, reporting his daughter's "uncontrollable drinking, running away and difficult behaviour".
Social workers told him she was "a child prostitute", and he accepted this "because he did not know that it was wrong", the review said.
Note that this grooming is AFK (away from keyboard) - it happens in real life situations where young people play and gather.