Okay, I don't mean wrong - I really mean 'sub-optimal' or 'high-effort'

We have managed to raise 3 well adjusted, polite, confident children (so far...one is now a teenager, so we'll see how that goes) through a combination of being very relaxed and laid back where we can, but imparting consistent discipline where necessary (like how to behave in public, respecting property etc)

But we have a friend who is finding it really difficult to bring up their children - who hit, shout, destroy things, and generally misbehave a lot of the time.

When we look after the kids they are as good as gold, because we just don't let them get away with that sort of behaviour, but we see how hard the other parents are having to work - and they seem baffled as to how to manage.

How can we help impart the best bits of what we do without sounding smug or clever, while still acknowledging that 90% of what these guys are doing seems right, but just lacking consistency around discipline and behaviour?

It's a very frustrating feeling when we want to help, but not sure we even have a right to.

(and I have read this post, but it refers to a baby, whereas these children are at a very destructive phase - 3 and 5 years)

  • A mod asking a duplicate question... lol – user24977 Feb 24 '17 at 18:54
  • It happens as easily as anyone else on the site doing it - we are still humans you know :-) – Rory Alsop Feb 24 '17 at 19:08
  • @RoryAlsop But you are a literal rockstar. Does that still count as human? – CodesInChaos Feb 24 '17 at 19:25
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    I dunno - replacing blood with alcohol, and breathing fire sound human still? – Rory Alsop Feb 24 '17 at 19:27
  • Sounds more like some kind of dragon to me. – CodesInChaos Feb 24 '17 at 19:56

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