My girlfriend has a 2-year-old child from a past ex. The ex rarely visits his daughter, but the majority of the time he is there to sort of flirt a bit with my girlfriend. He does not know she is seeing someone, because she is mainly afraid he will do something crazy.
My girlfriend is a little into debt with her college, she never finished it because she got pregnant. It really is not that much, but it will grow.
Her ex is pretty much an ass. He stole her and their daughter's birth certificate and stole my girlfriend's ID card. He also used her SSN, we are trying to get social securities to change it, but they said they need concrete physical evidence.
My girlfriend currently lives with her parents. She does all the chores, cooking, cleaning, washing, etc. and has to take care of her daughter. Everyone else pretty much works. There is one person who doesn't, but that isn't important right now.
My girlfriend really does need a job. Now a concern of mine is that I am afraid her pay check is going to all go straight to a babysitter. The girl who doesn't work wants to be paid to watch her daughter and she lives in the same house. Personally, she is the type to want to get paid for doing nothing type of person.
I am unsure what to do. She has tried making accessories here and there and does sell them, but it is not enough to really support her and her daughter as well as other expenses that will arise for her. The entire family is living paycheck-to-paycheck, my girlfriend also needs to use her WIC check to help feed the entire family as well, but most goes towards her daughter.
Now me, I live 50 min away. I help her out as much as possible. I pay for everything we do and help her with some of the bills. I am a student, so I don't really mind for now. I got a part time job, which is simple and I get money for it. So, I help her out. The majority of the money is leftover money I have gotten from the government for school. I cannot keep doing this forever or else I will get into debt myself.
I am unsure how to help her. She has no transportation herself, but I am sure she can ride the bus or walk, it is just if she does get a job I don't know who can watch the daughter. We were hoping when she does go to school, put her into some after school programs so her mother could work more and not pay anyone to watch her since most after school programs are free, but she is only 2. She won't be in school for a while. Being a college student myself, I am helping her daughter with the learning development her age demands and she is a bright little girl too. Talks, sings well and identifies a lot of objects for only being 2 and a half.
Just, my girlfriend does need a job and quick. Her family makes her do all the chores, but she said she feels she doesn't contribute enough so she is willing to do them. At this pace she can't really get far with her life. She will be stuck there and I want to help her flourish into a better life.
Any suggestions people.