Timeline for My 8-year-old daughter was taught by her classmates how to use the middle finger. How do I get her to stop this behavior?
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| Feb 19, 2018 at 11:05 | comment | added | anongoodnurse | @SomeShinyObject - I loved it. A lot of people have objections to it. It was a great way to avoid haggling over everything, nagging, frustration, etc. But it has to be understood and used correctly, I strongy suggest you read the book before you start. As I said, my husband didn't, and he only managed to upset the kids when he tried to do it. | |
| Feb 18, 2018 at 22:24 | comment | added | SomeShinyObject | @anongoodnurse No! I'm being completely serious! I tried it for the first time yesterday and it looks like that will be a new tool for the toolbox. | |
| Feb 18, 2018 at 16:03 | comment | added | anongoodnurse | @SomeShinyObject - The counting "resets" a short time (say 5 min) after the behavior stops. Usually (for me) the behavior stopped either at "That's a one (or two)" or after the time out. It's not a weapon for the kids to fear; it's a tool. Are you being serious with your question, or are you trying to make 1-2-3 look foolish? I used it, and I loved it. My pediatrician gave it to every new parent. | |
| Feb 18, 2018 at 4:16 | comment | added | SomeShinyObject | @anongoodnurse When does the 1 reset? Every day? Every hour? If they give the middle finger on Wednesday and get a "1" and then give the middle finger on Thursday, do they get a "1" or a "2"? | |
| Feb 15, 2018 at 15:26 | comment | added | anongoodnurse | Good answer. +1. But... 1-2-3 Magic does not work the way you described. You announced that the time out was for giving the finger, not for attention-seeking behavior. If she switches to something different, and is not giving the finger, you both win. One of the major problems with 1-2-3 Magic is its misuse. Personally, I loved it and it was very, very helpful to me with my kids; like you said, untoward behavior stopped at "That's a one." My husband misunderstood/misused it, and just caused frustration and a sense of injustice in the kids. Justice is very important to kids, as is mercy. | |
| Apr 15, 2013 at 9:56 | comment | added | Bennett McElwee | +1 for "They KNOW it's wrong, they are just pushing your buttons." | |
| Apr 7, 2013 at 16:21 | history | answered | MJ6 | CC BY-SA 3.0 |