Timeline for How would I tell my Father-In-Law that he's being too lenient in disciplining my brother-in-law?
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| Aug 7, 2017 at 12:12 | vote | accept | threeFatCat | ||
| Jul 24, 2017 at 13:21 | history | protected | Rory Alsop♦ | ||
| Jul 24, 2017 at 13:18 | answer | added | Andrew Neely | timeline score: 0 | |
| Jul 24, 2017 at 12:40 | comment | added | Stephan Bijzitter | Sounds like how I was raised, and I turned out just fine ;-) | |
| Jul 24, 2017 at 11:47 | answer | added | Tschallacka | timeline score: 1 | |
| Jul 24, 2017 at 3:23 | comment | added | Loren Pechtel | If it's not a learning disability on Jimmy's part it's probably that he's given up on trying to do anything about the situation--the status quo is easier than enforcing things. If so you have zero chance of fixing it. | |
| Jul 24, 2017 at 0:33 | answer | added | guru_florida | timeline score: 0 | |
| Jul 22, 2017 at 15:29 | comment | added | Strawberry | It's plainly none of your business. | |
| Jul 22, 2017 at 15:05 | answer | added | zzxjoanw | timeline score: 5 | |
| Jul 22, 2017 at 10:38 | comment | added | Pharap | I think a lot of people here are severly overreacting to this (i.e. taking personal offence at it). Whether people agree with the OP or not, this is a good question. It's understandable that the OP would be concerned, aside from the fact this is now his family too, it casts a shadow on the OP's own future - what if the OP has to leave his future children in the care of said In-laws and they treat the OP's own children with similar leniency? If the child is in fact "mentally challenged", it seems unsual for the family to have not already said something. | |
| Jul 21, 2017 at 13:04 | answer | added | user28128 | timeline score: 4 | |
| Jul 21, 2017 at 6:28 | comment | added | wizzwizz4 | @davidbak It might fit better on the Interpersonal Skills site. | |
| Jul 20, 2017 at 22:18 | comment | added | davidbak | Not sure why this is appropriate for "parenting". Since you're not, you know, the parent. | |
| Jul 20, 2017 at 21:31 | comment | added | 1006a | Is Jimmy's behavior causing you problems of any sort? Are there specific behaviors that make you worried for him? If so, you might have better luck asking about what you can do about that behavior, rather than asking about your general, abstract disapproval of your father-in-law's parenting style. | |
| Jul 20, 2017 at 18:01 | history | edited | threeFatCat | CC BY-SA 3.0 |
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| Jul 20, 2017 at 17:25 | history | tweeted | twitter.com/StackParenting/status/888087391981809665 | ||
| S Jul 20, 2017 at 16:44 | history | suggested | McCann | CC BY-SA 3.0 |
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| Jul 20, 2017 at 16:27 | answer | added | PoloHoleSet | timeline score: 7 | |
| Jul 20, 2017 at 16:03 | comment | added | DCON | I know plenty of people that failed miserably at school that are leading very productive and successful lives now. Academia doesn't work for everybody, and you should be supportive of this fact. | |
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| Jul 20, 2017 at 15:00 | comment | added | user3067860 | You should talk to your wife...not just because she might reach out to her dad (or tell you why she won't), but also because she might be fine with how her brother is being raised and then you will have important future information about your child-rearing compatibility. | |
| Jul 20, 2017 at 14:24 | comment | added | Dave Tweed | One possibility here is that "Jimmy" has an actual learning or developmental disability, and that the lack of motivation/discipline is not the issue at all. In any case, the answers you've gotten so far are correct -- the family has been dealing with the situation far longer than you have, and it isn't your place to intervene. Discuss it with your wife. | |
| Jul 20, 2017 at 14:02 | comment | added | Chris Pfohl | I'd be offended if you: as a person without children, tried to tell me, a person with several, how to parent. Parenting is nowhere near as easy as it looks. You'll notice we have an entire stack exchange for it, full of contradictory advice, because parenting is hard and there are almost no 100% correct answers for most issues. | |
| Jul 20, 2017 at 13:59 | answer | added | Adam Davis | timeline score: 4 | |
| Jul 20, 2017 at 10:27 | comment | added | Zaibis | "...that he would think I'm trying to teach him what parenting does." Isn't that what you plan to do? And hence I think its understandable that he will feel offended. | |
| Jul 20, 2017 at 10:21 | answer | added | AnoE | timeline score: 20 | |
| Jul 20, 2017 at 1:55 | answer | added | threetimes | timeline score: 26 | |
| Jul 19, 2017 at 23:01 | answer | added | user26011 | timeline score: 70 | |
| Jul 19, 2017 at 22:47 | answer | added | SomeShinyObject | timeline score: 50 | |
| Jul 19, 2017 at 22:09 | review | First posts | |||
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| Jul 19, 2017 at 22:09 | history | asked | threeFatCat | CC BY-SA 3.0 |