Timeline for How can I motivate a 13-year-old girl to take better care of her appearance?
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| Oct 31, 2018 at 16:22 | history | edited | Anne Daunted GoFundMonica |
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| Apr 24, 2017 at 20:03 | comment | added | Mikey | What is the condition of the house she lives in - as you say the father is overwhelmed, and the mother is ill - is it filthy or relatively 'normal?' | |
| Apr 22, 2017 at 9:28 | history | tweeted | twitter.com/StackParenting/status/855714867579408385 | ||
| Apr 20, 2017 at 21:00 | comment | added | PoloHoleSet | Perhaps, with everything that's going on at home, she not only feels like that's time and energy she doesn't have to put into it, but that doing so for something that shallow and frivolous will somehow seem selfish or trivialize what's going on with her mom. Perhaps she finds it appropriate that her outward appearance to the world matches how she feels right now. I'm not sure your priorities and emphasis are on target. She's got a lot going on right now, You perhaps should focus on listening to her and finding out what she needs in the way of support, and not trying to superficially "fix." | |
| Apr 20, 2017 at 20:01 | answer | added | Rebesalt | timeline score: 2 | |
| Mar 12, 2017 at 2:18 | answer | added | Stu W | timeline score: 8 | |
| Dec 5, 2016 at 17:39 | comment | added | BunnyKnitter | adding another "that was me at her age" :) Highschool for me consisted of video games. I didn't really care for the frivolity of highschool life and much preferred to kill digital things. I grew out of it eventually although I still can't be much bothered to keep up with the "fast fashion" and never did learn how to use makeup properly... | |
| Dec 5, 2016 at 5:44 | comment | added | user19750 | I don't understand why this is a big deal at all. I was also oblivious about clothing at that age. I lived in a world of books and computers and hobbies and math. It took me until 19 to realize that what I wore mattered. She'll grow out of it. | |
| Dec 4, 2016 at 23:32 | comment | added | Erik | Sounds like me at that age. I never grew out of it, I just found better people to surround myself with. | |
| Dec 4, 2016 at 20:05 | comment | added | L.B. | Sounds like me at that age! I just eventually grew out of it. | |
| Dec 4, 2016 at 15:56 | comment | added | WRX | I guess that you cannot go and get her? I think if you could spend time with her and just be interested, it doesn't even have to be a spa -- just a haircut and lunch. Perhaps you could facetime with her more frequently. Ask her advice on something like a gift for another kid or hope you could help her mother or father... | |
| Dec 4, 2016 at 9:58 | answer | added | Layna | timeline score: 13 | |
| Dec 4, 2016 at 4:23 | comment | added | Vivien Anett Takács | I thought of that too, but she is basically unable to travel alone by public transportation, because it's all unfamiliar for her, and she would need to travel a lot to get to the city - they live in a small town where there is no place for a spa day - and her father probably couldn't bring her in by car. Nontheless, I'm gonna try, thanks for the advice. | |
| Dec 4, 2016 at 3:55 | comment | added | WRX | if her dad is overwhelmed, could you offer her a 'spa' day? Hair, makeup and mani- pedi? | |
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| Dec 4, 2016 at 3:03 | history | asked | Vivien Anett Takács | CC BY-SA 3.0 |