Timeline for How do I address a teacher humiliating my son by calling him a "tattletale"?
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| Jan 18, 2014 at 1:03 | comment | added | balanced mama | Also, different people have different noise tolerances. Most kids might not be distracted by a little whispering while another kid might not hear another word that is said while anyone makes any noise at all. So, in response to Beofett's "if noise alone were an issue. . . " It may take a teacher a little longer to intervene than a particularly sensitive child may prefer. | |
| Jan 18, 2014 at 1:01 | comment | added | balanced mama | Having been a teacher, I can also say classrooms are rarely truly quiet places - even when the kids are all quiet. Fans are going, computers buzzing . . . If you happen to turn to face the board for a moment or are on the opposite side of the room, kids can whisper quietly enough to be distracting to a student next to them while not being heard by a teacher. Good teachers constantly move around a room and use their eyes as much as their ears in order to prevent this kind of thing going on for long and I am not defending this particular teacher - I'm just saying, it does happen. | |
| Jan 17, 2014 at 22:53 | comment | added | James Snell | More likely that the lead teacher was using a 'give silence, get silence' technique which involves shutting down all the other noise often nonverbally until the offenders realise they're holding things up. The teacher that did the telling off doesn't appear to be the same one that was leading the class(es) at that point, although that could be me misreading the question. | |
| Jan 17, 2014 at 16:24 | comment | added | user420 | Fair point. Although if the noise alone were an issue, you'd think the teacher would step in before a student felt the need to intervene on her behalf. Unless the intervention were exceptionally loud, which, while a possibility, seems very unlikely in this particular instance (again, based on my knowing the child in question). | |
| Jan 17, 2014 at 16:13 | comment | added | James Snell | We can only answer on the information included in the question... The clarification doesn't change the fact that asking the other children to be quiet was as much a contribution to the noise as the original chatterboxes or that calling someone 'tattletale' is inaccurate for the situation. There's a discrepancy and it's worth 'talking to' the school to see what that might be or for them to be aware of. | |
| Jan 17, 2014 at 15:57 | comment | added | user420 | If the sound of the other children talking was preventing him from hearing what was being said, I don't believe telling them to be quiet can be assumed to be "trying to 'be the adult'". Knowing my friend, I really doubt his son was "playing adult", or even "trying to help". Much more likely he simply couldn't hear over the noise, and felt that he should be able to. | |
| Jan 17, 2014 at 15:52 | history | answered | James Snell | CC BY-SA 3.0 |