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My daughter is 9 years old, she's just started grade 4. We've had her in a school for gifted kids since kindergarten. It's been great so far because they understand the challenges that gifted kids face and tend to treat those challenges with a bit more empathy and compassion.

Yesterday I got an email from our daughter's new teacher saying that some of the children performed poorly on a geography quiz and it was "not reflective of their true potential." As punishment she made them write an apology note explaining the reason for the poor result and that they will study harder in the future while the rest of the class got to go do a fun activity.

The test and apology note were sent home for us to sign. She had scored 63%, which doesn't seem like a huge deal to me, especially for a kid that loves school, love learning, and normally does well. When we talked about it, my daughter said that this situation made her feel angry because she was excluded from classroom fun and ashamed of her performance.

My gut reaction is that this is a pretty severe punishment for what I see as non-event. This is the second time since starting grade 4 that we've received an email from the teacher over what I consider a mundane occurrence. I'm worried that if this continues that my daughter will start to develop negative emotions to school, start thinking of herself as a failure for not being perfect, or begin to withdraw entirely.

Overall, I've been pretty happy with the school in general. They seem to understand her emotional needs and are patient as she progresses. Emails we've received in the past seemed acceptable and lead to good teaching opportunities at home. My spouse and I are going to speak with the teacher in person next week to try to understand better why this is happening. In the meantime I'd like to get some other perspectives. This is the first time I've really felt like something was out of line and that's part of why I'm asking for other viewpoints.

Is this a reasonable approach for this teacher to take? Why or why not?

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    Not an answer, but im glad you are looking out for whats best for your child and not just assuming the school must be right. That is a delicate balance but the fact you are caring so much about it seems a good sign
    – Vality
    Sep 20, 2019 at 17:07
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    I would absolutely withdraw my child from a school that exacts punishment for poor study performance, by whichever metric that is defined. Huge red flag.
    – user36162
    Sep 20, 2019 at 18:10
  • Bit of nuance. I don't know where you're from and what the school system is like over there. If this is what every school in your area is doing then of course removing her from that particular school won't do any good. In that case I would just fight that system every day up until her examination, and take it upon my self to help her see through the bullshit. But that part about a school for gifted kids have me thinking this is probably just some toxic elitism endemic to that school. Bring it up and if nothing changes, you change school. You're definitely not over reacting.
    – user36162
    Sep 20, 2019 at 18:35
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    Is it just this teacher or is this general school policy? It's possible this is just a rogue teacher with some strict and out of date teaching policies that the school doesn't know about. Have you had any other issues with the school in previous years/other teachers?
    – stan
    Sep 20, 2019 at 19:17
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    I took your comment and incorporated it into your question to focus it more than "Am I wrong or am I right?" (which is kinda off-topic here.) Hope that's ok, and hoping you'll get some helpful answers. :) Sep 20, 2019 at 23:02

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You're not over-reacting, at your daughter's age all you want to be doing is encouraging a love for learning. I was getting those kind of results in high school and neither my parents nor my teachers batted an eyelid. Some parents have higher expectations of their kids academic performance than others, but if you're uncomfortable, that's all that matters!

I'd approach the head of department, or whoever is in charge of her teacher and just politely ask for clarification on the school policy on academic performance. Request to know what is considered an acceptable grade, and the punishment policy for an unacceptable grade.

Since your daughter's grade of 63% was considered unacceptable, it's perfectly reasonable to know what standard the school is going to hold her to, and how. You can also explain what you explained here, that it's important that your daughter enjoys learning and you're worried that such a policy is going to get in the way of that.

You can also ask the teacher what the policy is, but they're probably not going to give you any answers you don't already know. The goal is to determine if this is just the teacher's self-imposed policy or if it is schoolwide. That will determine the course of action (filing a complaint against the teacher if it's the former, or weighing up if the school is a good fit for your daughter if it's the latter).

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Yesterday I got an email from our daughter's new teacher saying that some of the children performed poorly on a geography quiz and it was "not reflective of their true potential." As punishment she made them write an apology note explaining the reason for the poor result and that they will study harder in the future while the rest of the class got to go do a fun activity.

This doesn't make much sense.

One reason why we use grades instead of, say, a five-minute feedback talk with every child is that it's more objective. There is no "I think you can do better"-element in a grade. "I think you can do better" is a highly subjective opinion. Teachers all have them about their students, and sometimes it pays to tell the student something like that, but the way to do it is to tell the student "I'd like to talk to you for a moment after class is over" and then tell her whatever you think she needs to hear in order to reach the potential you see in her. What you don't do as a teacher is punish someone for not reaching a subjective potential that exists mostly in your head. Requiring a student to apologize for not doing better is not part of a teacher's job. I require apologies for showing up too late for class, for interrupting or disturbing the lesson etc, or generally for impolite behavior, but these are all things that are directly observable. I can't possibly know how much effort a student put into a test and how much of her potential she didn't reach, and even if I could, it's not my job to force him/her to put in the effort. Instead, I try to create a climate in which my students want to make an effort (which has been shown to have positive effects on learning outcomes, see below).

I teach teenagers, but I think the following is even more important for younger children: Some of the effort kids put into school work is because they like the teacher and want him/her to like them back. This is why sometimes after a test, a student comes up to me and tells me that he's sorry for the really bad answers he gave in the test - " I just didn't study, it's not bad teaching on your part". You destroy this relationship when you make a student apologize, and I think it will hurt future performance because eventually, the student will lose his trust in you and no longer try to look good in your eyes.

What you describe sounds like the teacher in question hasn't thought much about such consequences. I don't think it implies that there's a bigger problem with the school your daughter goes to, or even with the teacher herself, and I wouldn't approach any of the administrative staff of the school about it.

Instead, I'd ask the teacher in question for a short meeting, just like you're planning to. Since this is the second time you had an issue with something this teacher did, you can bring that up - say that of course a single event by itself doesn't mean anything, but since it's the second time something came up, you thought it important to have a talk.

Maybe there's something to the story you don't know yet that a meeting can clear up. For example, a lot hinges on the word "apology note". If the teacher requires an apology, as I said, that doesn't make sense. But maybe the word "apology" never left the teacher's mouth. Maybe she just required the kids to write down reasons why they didn't do better. There's a huge difference between an apology and an explanation. Requiring the kids to find possible explanations for their performance would be very valuable strategy to teach (again, see below for a reference).

If the teacher really acted the way you describe with no further justification, I'd gently bring up that you don't think the teacher handled the situation very well, and that you hope that he/she will think of a better way to reach his/her goals than resorting to punishment and shaming for not living up to the teacher's opinion of the student.

(If the teacher needs the class to work harder, for example, he/she can be up front about it: "I'm disappointed with some of your performances. For the next test, I expect everyone to reach a 70% minimum. Those of you who don't will have to retake the test/look up the right answers while the others can work on [fun activity xyz]". Note that the consequence of not reaching the expected goal is not writing an apology, which will not help the student to improve; it's something that will get the kids more time to practice). So it's not punishment; it's simply a consequence of not doing well enough - you get to practice more in an environment the teacher controls.)

But be careful in making any suggestions about how to handle this in a better way - your suggestions might not be welcome.

To take all of this out of the realm of supposition and ground it in a bit of science, there is a large-scale meta-study (commonly refered to as the "Hattie study") of which factors are helping children to achieve good results and which factors are holding them back. Check out https://visible-learning.org/, the study makes for a very interesting read.

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