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Coder, algorithm designer, father of two, pizza fanatic, and secret musician.


Sep
27
comment 9 year old son brought a toy gun to school- how can we get him to understand this isn't just about bringing a toy to school?
+1 for suggesting helping him understand about real guns in schools. Schools overreact to an absurd level about toy guns, and I think that to a nine-year-old that is obvious. He needs to understand why the reaction exists, and why it may not seem absurd to everyone. Also that regardless of how he feels about the rule, knowing about school shootings will help him understand why it is a very strict rule that will be enforced.
Mar
22
comment Reasoning vs “because I say so”
Although in that specific case, another reason is that if she attempted to carry the chemistry set through security, she would either lose it forever or have to send it through the mail, and there's a good possibility that she (and any adult she was with) would be detained for a long time. Why? Because that's a rule held by a powerful authority that doesn't negotiate.
Mar
16
comment How do I tell my parents I'm no longer Christian?
@DA01 It sometimes helps, when analyzing other people's motives, to try to look at things from their point of view. To a person who truly believes in the reality of hell, supporting a child who is determined to go there might be a terrible disservice to the child, literally the worst possible thing that could be done for them.
Mar
15
comment How do you respond to a teenager who has started to smoke?
Meh. I knew all that, had my dad tell me about it, saw pictures of dead peoples lungs, watched my grandfather die of emphysema and cancer, and still smoked. Teens are idiots. kotaku.com.au/2010/06/…
Mar
15
comment How do you respond to a teenager who has started to smoke?
I have an idea: lets just repeat the previous two comments back and forth until a moderator makes us stop. :) Seriously, I clearly don't agree with you. From my perspective, my question is relevant, which is why I asked it.
Mar
15
comment How do you respond to a teenager who has started to smoke?
that doesn't really help me to understand the specific relationship being asked about in the question. Neither parents nor teenagers are homogenous groups, and the answer to the question will depend on specifics.
Mar
15
comment How do you respond to a teenager who has started to smoke?
Do you give them money? Cigarrettes are extremely expensive in the US, and illegal to purchase for under 18s.
Aug
25
comment How to handle a 11y/o son who act like a girl?
@RexKerr and if you would like to discuss this further, I suggest we take it to chat. This discussion does not belong in this comment thread.
Aug
25
comment How to handle a 11y/o son who act like a girl?
@RexKerr We know that there are genetic factors that influence whether someone is homosexual or not. We do not know if any parental behavior whatsoever has any predictable effect on whether someone is homosexual or not. We do know that parents do not control every aspect of a child's environment, and therefore the exact same parental behavior, given the immense complexity of environmental factors, is going to have different effects, so no, nothing that a parent does or does not do causes their child to be gay, and certainly nothing they do after the age of 11 will change them.
Aug
25
comment How to handle a 11y/o son who act like a girl?
@RexKerr I'm saying that as far as a parent is concerned, homosexuality is a genetic trait, because while we do know that environmental factors influence how genes are expressed, we have no idea what those factors might be in this case or to what degree they might have an effect. So from the point of view of the person asking this question, if their son is gay, their son was born gay and nothing that they did do or didn't do "caused" him to be gay and nothing that they do or don't do now will change that.
Aug
25
comment How to handle a 11y/o son who act like a girl?
@RexKerr The data cannot rule out the possibility of some environmental factors. That isn't the same as showing that there are major environmental factors. Any stronger claim is based on a total misunderstanding of both the data and genetics. Given that we absolutely don't know what environmental factors might be in play or to what degree they have any effect, I'm comfortable saying that homosexuality is a genetic trait.
Aug
25
comment How to handle a 11y/o son who act like a girl?
@RexKerr It may be a simplification, but it's largely accurate. The data does not show that there are major environmental factors, and it certainly doesn't show that anything in particular that parents do causes a child to be gay, and it absolutely does not indicate that an 11 year old's sexual orientation can be changed by parental intervention. So in this context, I'm comfortable making the statement that homosexuality is something you are born with.
Aug
24
comment How to handle a 11y/o son who act like a girl?
@Abe Thanks for pointing that out. I made some edits in that section to clarify.
Aug
10
comment As an atheist, how should I explain theism to my children?
To short for an answer, but what I am doing with my kids is taking the to the Unitarian Church, which has a religious education program that is pretty comprehensive.
Jul
24
comment How do you encourage a toddler that you suspect may be gifted?
In my answer to the linked question, I pointed out that a) the defining factor in future success is practice, and b) being "gifted" as a child is not a predictor of future results. The answer for your toddler is exactly the same as it is for any toddler: help him find activities that are challenging and fun, encourage him to try hard, and allow plenty of time for play.
Jul
15
comment How can I make my travel schedule easier on my 5-year old?
@mmr pretty sure. When I first get home, he punches me. Then he stops until it starts getting closer to the time I leave, when he starts up again.
Jul
13
comment How can I make my travel schedule easier on my 5-year old?
No, looking for a new job isn't going to work just yet. I'm going to be doing this for a while, at least another year.
Jul
3
comment How do I talk to my child about homelessness and mental illness?
Have you asked him what he thinks about the situation? Why does he think the panhandler is homeless? Why does he think the panhandler doesn't have any food? Is he worried for them? Does he want to help them? Sometimes the best way to talk to a kid is to help them talk to you.
Jun
1
comment How can I encourage my 5-year-old to learn to swim?
I'm probably strong enough, but I'm not a great swimmer... More of a I can survive in the water swimmer.
May
31
comment How to avoid corporal punishment?
At five and two, they really should be going to bed pretty close together anyway, so I would agree that video games and tv are a little to exciting for that time of day.