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I have spent the past 8 years working at a small ISP, where I manage E-mail, DNS, Web, and Voip servers for a couple thousand clients.


Apr
3
comment How can I get my 12-year old physically active or into sports when he's never been?
+1 because as a dyed-in-the-wool geek, I have always been more interested in "practical" kinds of exercise than I have been in dying of boredom doing repetitive exercises in a gym. I liked cross-country skiing as a kid, rowing was somewhat practical, but today the thing I do the most is cycling. For a long time, the way I got around was on a bike. Now, I bike the 25km into work as often as I can. Because I can. :)
Apr
1
comment How do I convince a stubborn 8 year old that the parents are supposed to be in charge?
Hi, I can see that you're new here. And also not a parent. You give no useful examples of techniques to accomplish the goal you set. Nor do you remember the techniques your parents used. Probably because you had no idea what the theory was behind their techniques. Because you provided no useful advice, only moralizing, I've downvoted you.
Jun
28
comment What is a positive way to handle a boy who acts like a girl?
Sorry, boys who act like girls (especially in our culture, which reallyreallyreally discourages it, meaning that there are lots of incentives not to act this way, and thus demonstrates a strong willingness to continue this behaviour, as opposed to a passing fancy) in every way is pretty much the definition of gender dysphoria. That, and not being happy with being the gender you are. Again, only time will tell. The child is only 3.
Jun
26
comment What is a positive way to handle a boy who acts like a girl?
No. Google George Rekers and his failed methods on the subject of "sissy boys". Usually they included a boatload of parental abuse too. Anderson Cooper did a story on him too.
Jun
26
comment How do parents have sex when there's a toddler in the house?
Lots of experience with this. Upvoted.
Jun
26
comment Doing good things in the wrong way
Oh, my, is this what my future looks like? So, you're offering advice based on experience then? Lots of parents-to-be do that. And then they find out what it's really like, and stop pretending they know anything at all. Downvoted.
May
9
comment My son Is 5 years Old and sexually active
This isn't sexuality. This is abuse. Whether he's acting out the ways he's been abused or not, he's now raping other kids. Sex involves consent. Rape involves force.
May
9
comment How can I prep my child for an IQ test?
I want to ask: who's the overachiever? Mom, or the child? One of my friends has an IQ of 190, but hasn't really had either the motivation or the interest to make much of anything of her life, much to the consternation of her parents. That said, greatness doesn't come from doing well in school. It comes from wanting to go out and change the world, regardless of your grades.
Jun
14
comment When should we allow children to experience spices in food?
It may be the case that they don't feed their kids green curry at 6 months, but I'd be willing to bet that they start feeding their kids things that white Americans would consider spicy (often, too spicy, but that's so not saying much) at that age or maybe a little older. We've had success with this to varying degrees with both our kids. The first took to spicy Indian like a duck to water at around 6 months, the second took a while longer, say around 12 or 13 months.
Jun
9
comment What are the pros and cons of having an advanced student skip Kindergarten?
About 6: Don't act as if somehow your "little girl" at 16 will be a hen in a fox hole. More like "it takes two to tango". Generally speaking, women date older men anyway.
Jun
9
comment what is the best way to potty train a little boy?
Consider yourself extremely lucky. It's taken our son about 4 months before he could control himself reliably, and even then that's "mostly". Times when he's having altogether too much fun to notice when he needs to go potty are when he has accidents now.
Jun
9
comment what is the best way to potty train a little boy?
How old is your son? Ours didn't even try until he was 4, and that was after years of prompting and suggestion. It basically came down to us saying "You're ready. You're starting in underpants today" in spite of his screaming. Also, can we correctly assume that he's your first child?
Jun
8
comment Is (supervised) play time alone beneficial for an infant/toddler?
So, you think introversion is a bad thing?
Jun
2
comment What do we do if our children don't like the nanny?
I'd love to do that, but it's worth noting that it doesn't work. I've offered to do this at professional daycares, and they insist that doing so changes the child's behaviour - they at least know that they're being observed, and my oldest son in particular just gloms onto me the moment I walk in the door (I come home for lunch frequently), so it's really difficult to observe anything about how they normally operate.
Jun
2
comment Why would a primary-schooler want to kill himself?
Why are you sugarcoating the reason for Dad's absence? It's far better if we actually know if the parents are going through the separation phase of a divorce or if he's in prison or on a business trip.
Jun
1
comment Is an expensive stroller worth it?
An even more important test is to put a good 30 lbs of weight into the stroller and then try to steer it with one hand. And then with 4 wheel strollers, consider multiplying that force by about 3 for less than smooth surfaces and later wear. Get the stroller that manoevers the easiest.
Jun
1
comment How can I potty train a 12 month old?
Upvoted because our attempts at early potty training not only failed miserably, but instilled a great deal of fear of the potty in our first son, making the task exponentially harder.
Jun
1
comment How can I potty train a 12 month old?
Oh yes, totally serious answer. I wish we'd done this with our first son, and we're currently doing it with our second. He loves running around naked, and with the state of the carpet (who the hell thought that carpet between the dining room and kitchen was a good idea?! Nevermind what the cat has done to it) we simply fail to care anymore - someday it will be replaced with hardwood. That said, early on in our first child's potty training (at 4!), we put him in underpants and moved him to a towel when he started peeing. That quickly taught him that there's an appropriate place for that.
Jun
1
comment How can I brush my toddlers' teeth when he won't let me?
Hehe. Yes, I'm sure that at some point in the past I've done the "Muahahaha! I'm going to get you!" game with our 4 year old. Now, he takes great pride in making all his teeth good and clean.
Jun
1
comment How do you teach young kids to defend themselves?
I guess I have high hopes for our oldest son when he gets into Kindergarten this fall. He was defending himself on the playground by the age of 3. His first reaction was always to hit back, then come crying to mommy and daddy. He has a tendency towards being overprotective of his little brother though.