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Oct
14
answered How to stop my father from physically abusing me
Oct
14
comment How to stop my father from physically abusing me
Most 15 year olds are not in the same physical league as a grown adult male, particularly one who has shown he is willing and able to inflict violence on a family member. (He probably would already have stopped if the kid were physically imposing.) It's at least as likely that this will be an escalation in the severity of household violence, or result in being thrown out of the house, or worse.
May
27
answered What are the downsides of “I don't listen to things said in language X today” response used as a tactic for forcing a second language?
May
13
awarded  Yearling
Apr
15
comment Is it fair (or adequate) to ask a 4 yr old to stop crying for some reason?
It seems to me that the answer has a lot to do with the reason for the crying. Injured? Tired? Emotionally upset by something that is legitimately distressing? Something trivial that she needs to learn to talk about or accept without a meltdown? Or has she learned that she will be showered with attention and sympathy for as long as she cries? I would never tell a kid who just skinned her knee to stop crying, but I certainly would say that to a kid who's throwing a tantrum because they saw a toy that you aren't willing to buy.
Apr
15
answered Classmates choosing soccer tournament over my sons birthday party
Mar
18
answered 7 Yr Old Using Violent Language During Play
Mar
11
awarded  Commentator
Mar
11
comment Is there an age before which you should avoid the concept of death or dying?
It seems to me that it would be remarkable and rare to make it to 9 or 10 without a single close relative, friend, or pet dying by that point. I wouldn't want a close tragic event to be the very first time we discussed these issues, gotten a handle on the concepts, and had the emotional tools to deal with it.
Jan
22
awarded  Necromancer
Jan
21
comment When is it safe for a child to start boxing against a bag?
Just running through the math... 2500 injuries, 19 years, 1/3 hand injuries (I'm assuming that the majority of non-hand injuries were of people getting hit, not hitting)... that's only about 50 ER-worthy hand injuries per year, nationwide. And, though I have no data, I'd hazard a guess that the majority of those were actually boxing, not hitting a bag. I'm not sure I'd classify that as especially high risk, and personally would err on the side of letting my kid do it (casually, not to excess, and after being shown how to do so safely, with an appropriately weighted bag).
Jan
21
comment How do I address a teacher humiliating my son by calling him a “tattletale”?
I dunno, reporting a crime gets somebody into trouble, not out of trouble. That doesn't make it a problem. Perhaps a more important distinction is between matters of safety or justice, versus trivialities that aren't really doing anybody any harm.
Jan
21
answered How do I address a teacher humiliating my son by calling him a “tattletale”?
Jan
9
awarded  Necromancer
Oct
15
answered Is it fine for parents to ask for allowance from children? How to do it tactfully?
Oct
15
answered How soon until I can take my newborn to take a walk outside?
Aug
27
answered How to prepare my 4 year old for his 4 year old vaccinations?
Jul
31
awarded  Nice Answer
May
17
awarded  Yearling
Jan
22
answered Should I expect a boy to ask me for permission for prom?