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Dec
13
comment how to tackle 6.5 years old misbehaving boy?
It is very easy for us to conflate the gun a policeman carries with his legitimate authority. I am scared of the gun, so in the final analysis I will follow the policeman out of fear if I think he's crazy. This is not how it is supposed to work though. I should follow the policeman where he has legitimate authority that was invested in him by the people (me!), and the rest is up for debate.
Dec
13
comment how to tackle 6.5 years old misbehaving boy?
@ThorinSchmidt I also agree that not all children are created the same! However I think we can eventually work towards a baseline of reasonable parental behaviour (eg. we probably all agree sexual abuse is simply wrong, while mild violence and verbal assault is actually somewhat controversial).
Dec
13
comment how to tackle 6.5 years old misbehaving boy?
@ThorinSchmidt I obey a policeman who turns his lights on because I have agreed to be part of this society and follow the rules of it, and I may have made an infraction (even if I am not aware of it). But I do not obey because a policeman has authority over me. They DO NOT! Think about that for a moment. If a policeman asked you to do something dangerous, illegal, distasteful...you would say no I hope!
Dec
13
comment how to tackle 6.5 years old misbehaving boy?
@tomjedrz If you check all my comments, you'll see I was somewhat in favour of your answer. But we disagree on severity I think (like we did July 2013!)
Dec
13
comment how to tackle 6.5 years old misbehaving boy?
@tomjedrz "Defiance and disrespect must be eliminated and your commands must be followed...Once you give the command, it must be obeyed..." This is what led to the dogs comment. I think you take it too far, simple as that.
Jul
14
comment Which is the best option electric or a manual breast pump and how to choose the best one
Our 2 cents - electric pumps all the way, and dualies are best (both breasts at the same time, much more efficient)
Jul
14
comment how to tackle 6.5 years old misbehaving boy?
What does "respecting" authority mean? Does it mean obeying anyone who orders you around (or appears to be powerful or bigger than you) without question or hesitation? Doesn't sound very good to me. You're right, our job is not to be liked, loved, or be their friend. Our job is to love THEM, and treat them like humans, not servants, monkeys, or dogs.
Jul
13
comment how to tackle 6.5 years old misbehaving boy?
-1 following the parent promptly and without question, -1 "applying punishment", -1 you aren't teaching your child self-control, you're teaching them to obey you, and eventually, quite possibly, hate you. However, consistent and predictable is an excellent point, and +1 for not punishing feelings.
Jul
13
comment how to tackle 6.5 years old misbehaving boy?
My answer completely ignored the boy's 'side', his thoughts and reasons. Excellent point Dave.
Jul
13
comment how to tackle 6.5 years old misbehaving boy?
I should add, 'do the best you can' may mean getting professional help. You shouldn't completely ignore the past. If you know you are violent with children, that needs to stop and/or you need to find someone else to look after your kids.
Jul
13
comment how to tackle 6.5 years old misbehaving boy?
Even if your child remembers every bad thing that you've done, at least you can demonstrate the ability to improve. Don't worry about the past. Focus on the present, and do the best you can.
Jul
7
comment Baby always rolling over and ending up sleeping on his stomach, is it dangerous?
@deworde your link does not state that SIDS is not suffocation. It is an unknown. So we can say 'the cause is not identified as suffocation because it is unknown' but from your reference we cannot say 'the cause is not suffocation'. Of course, I'm not saying it is suffocation.
Jul
7
comment How to know whether the baby has had her fill while breastfeeding?
My wife indicated that it was clear when the baby had stopped extracting milk, and was instead sucking without much effect. At that point she felt she could stop feeding if necessary (although often didn't if she was comfortable and the baby was happy).
Aug
10
comment How can I get my 4 year old to clean up toys without a battle?
@BBM that's true, however I think cleaning up tools is actually a bit different. First, you usually don't have an endless supply of crappy tools strewn about because nobody really uses them. You usually have a relatively smaller number of useful tools with a particular purpose and a particular home. Keeping organized while using tools is a pleasing part of the process of doing real work, and it is constantly demonstrated (hopefully!) by the parents. How complex and overwhelming is it to put a vacuum away?