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comment What should children call a step-grandparent?
I agree with your opinion. Everyone seems happy too me. However, my mom has been pushing the issue a little bit and I can see her point. That's why I'm interested in some compromise win-win solution such as an alternative name that doesn't necessarily imply he's grampa.
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comment What should children call a step-grandparent?
@Michael: Both my mom and dad remarried, a couple of times each. I never considered any of their new spouses mom or dad, while technically they were. Is being grandma and grampa as important as mom and dad? In many cases not, and if that is how one believes then I wouldn't have any issues. But in my life my grandparents on my mother's side were extremely important, so the titles mean a lot too me. So just like my parents remarrying didn't make their new spouses mom or dad, my mom remarrying doesn't make her spouse grampa, even if he probably has earned it.
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comment What should children call a step-grandparent?
In principle I agree that the role is more important. However, when one party can't fulfill that role because they passed away, then I can't help but feel that it is disrpespecting of that person's memory to give the title of what would have been their role to someone else. It would have been cool if the kids came up with something on their own but they are now firmly entrenched with Mr. Joe unless we tell them to call him something else.
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comment What should children call a step-grandparent?
+1 - "Mr. Joe" is definately a phrase filled with positive emotions for the kids. The kids warmly accept him. I think my mom wants to change the name in order to make Mr. Joe feel like he is more important in the kids life. After all, they've called him Mr. Joe from the first day they met him and he has earned a much higher level of importance since then. So I agree in that regard. It is simply the grampa (and variants) title that I am having problems with since they already have 2 grampas (one of whom passed away).
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comment What should children call a step-grandparent?
Thanks for the list. Unfortunately, I didn't care for any of them but that doesn't mean my mom, the kids and Mr. Joe won't also, so I'll forward it on to them for an opinion.
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comment What should children call a step-grandparent?
I guess titles are important too me. I can't imagine not having my kids call me dad, as your husband does with his parents. It would break my heart. It would also break my heart if I were to get divorced and my wife remarried and they called some other guy dad. Fortunately, that divorce thing isn't an issue:) I am kind of looking at things from this point of view. I was hoping to find some title that gives importance but isn't taking the grampa title from their grampa.
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comment What should children call a step-grandparent?
My real father passed away 7 years ago. I can't get over the idea that it shows disrespect towards him if I use his title for somebody else. Even if that somebody else behaves like grampa. That is why I am having such a hard time with this question.
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comment What should children call a step-grandparent?
@torbengb: My wife and I believe that children should show respect towards their elders. Calling an elder by their first name only gives the implication that the child is on a buddy-buddy equal level, which they are not.
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