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Jan
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comment Is 4 years old too young to expect them to try to handle their own social situations during play at home?
Yes, it is a very similar feeling to what your son says. She has even told my daughter to shout at my nephew when she knows I have corrected my daughter many times not to do that. I came in the room and my niece immediately cowered and said, "I'm okay" (as in don't talk to me) knowing I was about to do some correcting. I corrected my daughter not my niece. So I am not sure what is going on with her.
Jan
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comment Is 4 years old too young to expect them to try to handle their own social situations during play at home?
Thanks for your answer. I added the discipline info to see if it could help answers come about. I see my niece and nephew 2-3x a week. We live 5 blocks from them. This has gone on for months with me guiding them through sharing with each other same scenario - someone wants a toy. I do treat her like my own child - same tone. My daughter is just used to me more I guess. I ask my daughter how she thinks she can handle a situation before I guide her as you suggested. I agree it is a tricky balance to strike.
Jan
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comment Is 4 years old too young to expect them to try to handle their own social situations during play at home?
You guys are right I kind of blathered on thinking I was adding background to her personality. Instead I was confusing people. So I hope I refocused it.
Jan
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comment Is 4 years old too young to expect them to try to handle their own social situations during play at home?
But I also teach my daughter that if her cousins (we usually play at their house) asks for their toys back, she should give it back because it is not her toy, she was just borrowing it. Often I think my niece is testing that with me because she hears me say the logic to my daughter. I like to give my daughter the opportunity to respond to her cousin asking for their toy back without my prompting as well to see what she comes up with. I don't say to my niece/nephew "you should share".
Jan
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comment Is 4 years old too young to expect them to try to handle their own social situations during play at home?
To note the "cousin" in this picture is my own daughter so I keep what I say around her consistent like helping clean up a mess you made like in that situation. My niece is sensitive even to her own parents. The help she asks is for a toy from a child not something complicated (she is very advanced in language) so I usually say, "go ask so-and-so for it". I don't think it's necessarily "right" for me to intimidate (not in a threatening way but children will listen to adults more than a child, my niece is no fool she knows this) another child to give her a toy.
Jan
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comment What are some do's and dont's for an effective bedtime ritual?
@Amy - do you read to them in a separate room and then move on to the bedroom when it is time for the actual sleeping?
Jan
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comment What are some do's and dont's for an effective bedtime ritual?
I am also curious about the clock. Anybody?
Jan
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comment What are some do's and dont's for an effective bedtime ritual?
Your mention of "ear training" made me curious. I came upon this zumpoems.com/off-limits/ear-training-for-children-ages-3-to-6. Very cool! My child has always been a very auditory learner so I will have to try that out.
Jan
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comment How long is it okay for a baby to remain on just breastfeed?
Correct @dave. The child's prescribed vitamins also have added iron if the parents were using supplements.
Jan
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comment Automatic dripping Milk feeder
I also envisioned the hamster cage bottle which is a licking action. @Ali - I didn't mean no parents in sight whatsoever. I should have said "hands free" like your podee bottle answer.
Jan
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comment Automatic dripping Milk feeder
I guess "automatic feeder" meant no parents?
Jan
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comment Automatic dripping Milk feeder
Isn't the baby still sucking on the SNS? Sorry, I am not familiar with it and the instructions didn't help me. I guess it just felt like a contradiction to me: an automatic drip like an IV and a "baby sucking as and when required" in your question?
Jan
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comment What are some good natural teethers?
You don't freeze those teethers. You put them in the fridge. I do not know why but the label says that. Maybe because frozen teethers are way too cold for the baby to hold? Even though my baby's teethers had a handle, she always held on to the cold teether part and not the handle.
Jan
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comment What to do when an eight-year old says “sorry” in a not sorry voice
+1. Question for you - do you offer possibilities of why they are sorry or you have them come up with it themselves? I do the same method but sometimes, I get a blank stare or "I don't know". My daughter is only 32 months though. What do you do then?
Jan
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comment Automatic dripping Milk feeder
Sounds like an automatic feed would require no sucking from the baby. Nipple shields help the baby get the breast deeper in their mouth to pump the milk. There is no device to train suckling that I know of. Babies naturally know how to suck. It's latching on that is the problem.
Jan
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comment Grandparent put a diaper on my toilet trained child
Thank you yes I talked to my mom about it. She didn't know I was on a no-diaper regime then and after I talked to her, it didn't happen again.
Jan
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comment How can I explain New Year to a preschooler?
Very cool. Going to do this. Thanks!
Jan
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comment What's a good way to encourage a toddler to blow their nose?
But when they choose the other over your affection, how will that make you feel? I guess I am in the position where affection is given without strings attached. I agree with "realistic consequences" but not with encouraging conditional love.
Jan
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comment Toddler started to not fall asleep anymore
Same thing happening to me with our 32 month old. She wants to play forever. Her dad also had trouble sleeping as a child which makes me think we are going to be in this for a longer phase than most...
Jan
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comment Loud Screaming to attract attention
Hmm "forced" the mom out? I think you both need to be on the same page or find a compromise for parenting.