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comment Is 4 years old too young to expect them to try to handle their own social situations during play at home?
Yes, it is a very similar feeling to what your son says. She has even told my daughter to shout at my nephew when she knows I have corrected my daughter many times not to do that. I came in the room and my niece immediately cowered and said, "I'm okay" (as in don't talk to me) knowing I was about to do some correcting. I corrected my daughter not my niece. So I am not sure what is going on with her.
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comment Is 4 years old too young to expect them to try to handle their own social situations during play at home?
Thanks for your answer. I added the discipline info to see if it could help answers come about. I see my niece and nephew 2-3x a week. We live 5 blocks from them. This has gone on for months with me guiding them through sharing with each other same scenario - someone wants a toy. I do treat her like my own child - same tone. My daughter is just used to me more I guess. I ask my daughter how she thinks she can handle a situation before I guide her as you suggested. I agree it is a tricky balance to strike.
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comment Is 4 years old too young to expect them to try to handle their own social situations during play at home?
You guys are right I kind of blathered on thinking I was adding background to her personality. Instead I was confusing people. So I hope I refocused it.
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comment Is 4 years old too young to expect them to try to handle their own social situations during play at home?
But I also teach my daughter that if her cousins (we usually play at their house) asks for their toys back, she should give it back because it is not her toy, she was just borrowing it. Often I think my niece is testing that with me because she hears me say the logic to my daughter. I like to give my daughter the opportunity to respond to her cousin asking for their toy back without my prompting as well to see what she comes up with. I don't say to my niece/nephew "you should share".
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comment Is 4 years old too young to expect them to try to handle their own social situations during play at home?
To note the "cousin" in this picture is my own daughter so I keep what I say around her consistent like helping clean up a mess you made like in that situation. My niece is sensitive even to her own parents. The help she asks is for a toy from a child not something complicated (she is very advanced in language) so I usually say, "go ask so-and-so for it". I don't think it's necessarily "right" for me to intimidate (not in a threatening way but children will listen to adults more than a child, my niece is no fool she knows this) another child to give her a toy.
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answered Nursing an infant while being pregnant
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answered How can I teach my infant to start sucking bottle teats instead of chewing them?
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comment What are some do's and dont's for an effective bedtime ritual?
@Amy - do you read to them in a separate room and then move on to the bedroom when it is time for the actual sleeping?
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comment What are some do's and dont's for an effective bedtime ritual?
I am also curious about the clock. Anybody?
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comment What are some do's and dont's for an effective bedtime ritual?
Your mention of "ear training" made me curious. I came upon this zumpoems.com/off-limits/ear-training-for-children-ages-3-to-6. Very cool! My child has always been a very auditory learner so I will have to try that out.
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revised What are some good natural teethers?
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comment How long is it okay for a baby to remain on just breastfeed?
Correct @dave. The child's prescribed vitamins also have added iron if the parents were using supplements.