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comment At what age does co-sleeping become detrimental to a child?
@Marc Sorry, I don't think that sentence makes any sense. There may be benefits and/or harms - probably are both - but they're too hard to quantify to make this question answerable. Certainly it's not answerable as "At what age does it become detrimental", given most of the harms quoted occur at young ages (ie, children dying from smothering).
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comment At what age does co-sleeping become detrimental to a child?
It's hard for me to see this having a concrete answer, despite the effort the asker made in framing it. Beofett's answer to the linked question is probably the closest you can come, and the data in it is very mixed itself.
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reviewed No Action Needed Dealing with gassy children during practice?
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reviewed Reviewed How do I get my 5 year old to be more appreciative and thankful for what she has?
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reviewed Reviewed Why would a 15 year old just stop talking. Like 'Selective Mutism'?
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comment My wife wants a 4th baby, but I don't
That doesn't make this any more of an answer to the question. This would be an acceptable comment, not an answer.
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answered Questions about “Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids”
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comment 8-year-old refuses to blow his nose
I will say, however, that if they truly say "explaining things to kids is pretty useless and leads to arguing and yelling", that's incorrect. From my experience with a preschooler and a toddler, even the toddler is capable of understanding why, and providing that explanation often leads to better outcomes than simple do/don't do instructions, in my experience. When it does lead to arguing is when you are not truly frank in your explanation: if your reason is ultimately "because I want you to", then don't provide reasons to justify that.
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comment 8-year-old refuses to blow his nose
1-2-3 Magic on the other hand focuses more on teaching children things rather than developing their independent problem solving skills. That's not necessarily wrong - many people use this to great effect - but it's a different approach and ultimately a very different goal. Each work well with different personality types, both of parent and of child.
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comment 8-year-old refuses to blow his nose
The concept behind this approach is ultimately that if you want your child to make good decisions in life without you present, you need to give them the opportunity to learn how to make good decisions - which requires letting them make the decision on their own, without leading them around by the nose. Part of this is learning problem solving - PET pushes not providing the solution unless explicitly asked, so that he/she figures it out when possible on his/her own.
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comment 8-year-old refuses to blow his nose
@Koveras 1-2-3 Magic and this approach are diametric opposites in this regard. They're both reasonably good approaches to parenting, don't get me wrong, but they're aimed at very different things. 1-2-3 Magic ultimately aims for well behaved, compliant children; PET and similar approaches aim for independent children who will make good decisions on their own.
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comment My wife wants a 4th baby, but I don't
Welcome to the community, Lisa. This does not answer the question as stated; the question is asking for advice as to how to handle the decision making, not asking for how to make it unilaterally.
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revised What to do if my one year old won't chew her food
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answered What to do if my one year old won't chew her food
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comment 8-year-old refuses to blow his nose
I'm curious about the downvotes. This looks like a fairly good question to me; it's not an example of perfect parenting behavior, but that's why this site exists to a large extent - none of us are perfect parents. I don't know that I think downvoting based on the agreement with how the parent approached the subject is a good thing for the community.
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comment 8-year-old refuses to blow his nose
I think the sarcasm notes are very apt, by the way; it's very hard particularly for people whose primary humor outlet is sarcasm to remember that it works with adults and not kids much of the time.
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comment 8-year-old refuses to blow his nose
@anongoodnurse Did you make this CW on puprose, or did you make it by virtue of the edits? I tend to think this sort of post should not be CW - it's your answer, not some sort of collective thing.
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answered 8-year-old refuses to blow his nose
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comment My wife is pregnant and I don't want to be part of it, what I should do?
It doesn't matter if they're perfect duplicates; at the end of the day the best answers to that question are also good answers to this one.
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revised What can I do about 3 year old holding in pee all the time?
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