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We had many hours of training to be foster parents for a year, and were reimbursed our expenses by the county, so I jokingly say we were professional parents. We have witnessed the effects of very bad parenting first hand, and learned many different ways to reverse those effects, often with professional guidance.

We've parented a wide gamut of children. Some of our foster children were of a different ethnicity than us. Our oldest daughter has cerebral palsy, we adopted our son, and our youngest was a surprise baby after thinking we couldn't have children without fertility treatments.

After she was born our plate was too full to continue fostering, but we are grateful for the experience, and I hope to be able to pass on some of what we have learned on this site. In a few years when we have teens I expect you all to return the favor.

We recently started homeschooling our children, which should be a source of interesting questions.


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comment Destructive when unattended
Those ideas might work for naptime, but I'm not seeing it for night time.
Aug
18
comment What safe ways are there to get a baby to sneeze?
I accidentally nicked the tip of my nose last week while shaving (I was still waking up, okay?), and used a styptic pencil to stop the bleeding, which stings like crazy. Made me sneeze around 6 times, big sneezes too. Oh wait, you said "safe." :-)
Aug
13
comment At what week will the doctor be able to determine my Baby's Sex
Considering my 6 year-old nephew was thought to be a girl until the actual birth, I'd say 40 weeks :-)
Jul
31
comment Helping a child independently make logical connections
That's a good idea, @Ida, and something we already do but could step up. He also favors repetition over exploration in creative play. See this previous question of mine where I asked about him building the same lego designs over and over.
Jul
31
comment Helping a child independently make logical connections
We already do the education tailoring as much as possible. That's why we are homeschooling and why he is reading as well as he is. However, at some point he needs a minimal proficiency in this skill. I especially like the focus training idea. It will take time to learn, but it would be nice for him to have a "standard operating procedure" for those situations.
Jul
3
comment Child (4-11) does not get into any of their preferred schools - now what? (UK)
I think it's an interesting question, though. I'll put some of my thoughts in Parenting Chat.
Jul
3
comment Child (4-11) does not get into any of their preferred schools - now what? (UK)
This question appears to be off-topic because it is about a legal matter rather than parenting.
Jun
23
comment How can I make noisy toys quieter?
Using an inline resistor would require a relatively rare resistance value and risk introducing problems like distortion or heat, because amplifiers are designed to drive a certain resistance. It's better to change the gain setting in the amplifier circuit. If you're lucky, sometimes there's a trimpot you can adjust with a screwdriver. Otherwise, posting a picture of the circuit board to electronics or reverse engineering stack exchange chat might get you some help.
Jun
17
comment My son witnessed a friend receiving corporal punishment; how do I prevent this from sending the wrong message?
Yes, I'm referring to some of my former foster children.
Jun
16
comment Do we have a recourse against an anonymous parent making our child's life harder?
I'm not saying it's a grudge, just a desire to avoid extra work. Certainly not everyone is that way, but there are enough to notice.
May
30
comment Infant and a lazy eye: Should I be concerned?
See related meta post.
May
28
comment What are the downsides of “I don't listen to things said in language X today” response used as a tactic for forcing a second language?
Please take further discussion to Parenting Chat.
May
12
comment Is it common for a toddler boy to wiggle his fingers in front of his eyes?
Please open a Parenting Meta question if you want to discuss this question's topicality.
May
5
comment How to deal with homework/studies frustration?
How old is he? Has anything changed recently? New school, new subject, more workload, etc.?
May
5
comment Teaching my 10 year old son appropriate bathroom manners
Please take discussion to Parenting Chat.
Apr
23
comment Why does my daughter smile and start to laugh at me when I am noticeably really angry at her?
Hmm, I will have to research further. I would take her word over mine. Like I said, my daughter has other conditions and hasn't been officially diagnosed. Her apparent difficulty empathizing could be due to another condition, or may be just an outward appearance that doesn't reflect her inner thoughts.
Apr
21
comment Just found out my 13 year old girl is Bi and dating a 17 year old girl in an “open” relationship. Huh? Now what?
Please take discussion to Parenting Chat and don't put answers in comments.
Apr
18
comment Getting stuck on the wrong answer
Also, what exactly about the military made hyperfocus less of an issue for you? It seems to me like military service would require a great deal of focus, just in a different way than a classroom.
Apr
18
comment Getting stuck on the wrong answer
Thanks, very useful. Could you provide more details about the self-taught skills? I'd like to try to actively teach those kinds of skills instead of both him and us being frustrated until he eventually figures it out by trial and error like you did. The main reason we homeschool is so we can tailor his education to the way he learns, instead of the other way around. In other words, what do you wish your teachers would do to help you focus on the right thing?
Apr
16
comment Just found out my 13 year old girl is Bi and dating a 17 year old girl in an “open” relationship. Huh? Now what?
Please take discussion to Parenting Chat.