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Nov
27
comment My 5 year old's second language: Why is it not coming naturally?
I think that's fairly common when kids are immersed in one language and often spoken to in another, but can answer and be understood in the first. I grew up among a lot of kids in that situation who understood Spanish well but couldn't really speak it fluently.
Nov
13
comment How can I convince my parents to accept my approach on school?
That's a good point, @blankip. However, the OP was asking how to convince his parents of the merits of applying a very specific educational strategy to a very specific career choice, the primary difference of which a degree makes is ease of earning potential. It's also much easier to be happy in a job when you have many options open to you.
Nov
5
comment What are the impacts of public shaming?
I'd never heard of it at least. Kids occasionally getting disciplined in public, or forced to publicly apologize for public offenses, yes, but nothing like this. Even now, I don't know anyone personally, only the viral cases. Interesting question, though.
Nov
5
comment What are the impacts of public shaming?
This technique was invented in the last decade and is relatively rare, despite a few highly public examples. I'm not sure you'll be able to find the kind of evidence you're looking for.
Nov
3
comment My wife had her first doctor's appointment and it took exactly 15 minutes is that ok?
Information dumps are appointments where a lot of instruction happens, questions are answered, etc.
Oct
19
comment How much time does homeschooling consume?
I find your comment puzzling. Which is the norm, then? To take more time or to take less time than your family needs?
Oct
13
comment What are the pros and cons of colouring books?
@anongoodnurse, I don't think we ever buy them either, but we have a bunch just from gifts.
Sep
4
comment Strategies for identified but unavoidable distractions
He has been this way his entire life. I noted already that he gets distracted even on things he enjoys. That includes TV and video games. For example, after an hour of Minecraft he often ends up with nothing else than seeds and one or two mob drops, because he constantly moves from one distraction to another within the game. He watches TV in 5 minute spurts then does something else. Basically, he doesn't spend more than 5 minutes on anything, fun or boring, without an adult constantly putting him back on track.
Sep
1
comment Strategies for identified but unavoidable distractions
He is not officially diagnosed, @AE, but he scores very strongly on the unofficial ADHD tests.
Aug
16
comment Is it bad practice for a parent to tell their children when they have a right/reason to cry?
Agreed. Phrasing is very important for validating the emotion.
Jul
29
comment My 5 year old step son has started crying about everything and wanting to go to moms
FYI, my 5 year-old behaves similarly when she doesn't get her way, and her mother and I have been married for 18 years. My 8 year-old went through a similar phase. It's possible you might be reading too much into it.
Jul
20
comment Private school vs bad public school for a young child
Unfortunately, since I read these for my own edification, I don't keep a bibliography that makes them easy to find later. Here's one article I found with a quick search that deals with forming attitudes about whether you're good at math.
Jul
7
comment What is the most appropriate way to address contrarianism in a 4-year-old?
Agreed about the sometimes. It's important to allow choices whenever feasible.
Jul
2
comment Behavior changes after social events
It's broader than that; this was just one example, but that's a good insight. In fact, we are already working on it.
Jul
2
comment Behavior changes after social events
I doubt it in this case. I think that would make him very secretive about the whole thing, but it's a good thought.
Jul
2
comment Behavior changes after social events
It's the personal gain kind of lying. For example, he stole a stack of iron from his cousin in minecraft (which requires a significant investment of time to gather) and lied about where he got it. He knows that results in a loss of minecraft privileges, because he has done it before, but was at least honest about it last time.
Jul
1
comment How can I explain to my 4 year old that his friend has moved away?
The way to do it would be asking your friends to pass along your contact info, then the new family can choose whether or not to contact you. Keep in mind there's a good chance the kids are going back to their birth parents or a relative.
Jun
30
comment Why does my 16-year-old hate me?
I'm not sure why the downvotes, but just to make it absolutely clear, I don't think this is your fault at all. I'm focusing on your response only because you have no control over his.
Jun
29
comment Behavior changes after social events
I mean events where he's mostly around other kids, not his sisters, for several hours for multiple days. This question isn't about how to stop the lying. We have quite a bit of experience doing that at this point. It just takes several weeks to break the habit, then these events seem to reset him back to zero. I'd like to prevent the reset, or at least understand why it happens.
Jun
23
comment Suggestions on keeping a soon to be 7 year old engaged during summer vacation
One word: Pinterest.