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We had many hours of training to be foster parents for a year, and were reimbursed our expenses by the county, so I jokingly say we were professional parents. We have witnessed the effects of very bad parenting first hand, and learned many different ways to reverse those effects, often with professional guidance. We've parented a wide gamut of children. Some of our foster children were of a different ethnicity than us. Our oldest daughter has cerebral palsy, we adopted our son, and our youngest was a surprise baby after thinking we couldn't have children without fertility treatments. After she was born our plate was too full to continue fostering, but we are grateful for the experience, and I hope to be able to pass on some of what we have learned on this site. In a few years when we have teens I expect you all to return the favor.


Apr
25
comment 15 month baby never sleeps through the night
A funny article on the topic.
Apr
24
comment Our 6 years old son doesn't follow instructions very well, bad listening skills, I need help
Well, the urban dictionary defines pulling a card as slang for killing someone. This question may be a little out of our league :-)
Apr
12
comment How to change a one track mind?
@longneck, like wanting to go outside late at night or in bad weather, wanting to play with a toy that got thrown away because it broke, asking for a person who is busy or not there. That sort of thing.
Apr
12
comment When to pull loose teeth
@DrJ, my sister had some teeth come in through the side of the gum because the baby teeth didn't come out, but they never got loose enough to pull except by a dentist. If they're loose enough for a parent to pull, they're loose enough for the permanent teeth to push out naturally.
Apr
11
comment Painting around baby?
You're making my back hurt just talking about it :-)
Apr
8
comment Pre-teen always sneaking junk food
@Ana, I posted it in my answer to the Easter peep question.
Apr
8
comment Pros and cons of C section (Cesarean) delivery?
Was your wife already well into labor? My understanding is those cause significantly more physical trauma.
Apr
8
comment Pre-teen always sneaking junk food
Here's a good article that supports your hypothesis.
Apr
5
comment At what month of pregnancy should the DHA intake be started?
I agree waiting beyond 18 weeks is unlikely to give better results, but a lot of other nutritional supplements have been proven to give better results when started earlier, even before becoming pregnant. I don't see anywhere questioning the safety of DHA, just the efficacy.
Apr
5
comment At what month of pregnancy should the DHA intake be started?
Those studies only compared starting at week 18 with not starting at all, in order to capture the "last half of the pregnancy." You can't really draw conclusions about the most beneficial timing from those results.
Apr
4
comment How often should the cloth diaper be changed and how to know when it is the time to change the diapers?
I could have sworn this was a duplicate, but it seems other questions focus on how long is safe to leave a wet diaper, not how to know when to check.
Apr
2
comment Strategies to reduce computer game interest
Related: parenting.stackexchange.com/q/5926/644
Mar
28
comment Should you secretly drill your children?
I hope you never lock your keys inside!
Mar
20
comment How can parents improve a child's behavior outside their presence?
Five and eight. The eight year-old has cerebral palsy, and is approximately mentally equivalent to a three year-old.
Mar
14
comment Does daycare mentally damage children under three?
Interesting question, but I'd like to take objection to the wording. I've foster parented truly "damaged" and "permanently harmed" children. Putting kids in daycare in the same category just feels wrong.
Mar
14
comment Can the council demand that a 16yo shares a bedroom with a 1yo?
Council as in city council. Council housing is public housing, funded or at least subsidized by taxpayers.
Feb
5
comment Toddler having a kind of facial spasm/seizure
It definitely sounds like one to me, but I'm not qualified to diagnose one in other children. I only know my daughter's seizures.
Jan
18
comment How do you manage free time when you have kids?
+1 This is almost exactly what I was going to write, including the mommy/daddy night thing, which I didn't know anyone else did.
Dec
28
comment Disciplining a special needs child
What I'm saying is there's no magic system of rewards and punishments that only work on kids with special needs. You use the same types of punishments and rewards, but set the rules appropriately lower. My 8 year old with cerebral palsy has approximately the same rules as her 3 year old sister, except for chores like cleaning up toys she can't do because she is physically unable. Our 5 year old is held to a higher standard now, but had the same expectations as his sisters when he was 3.
Dec
27
comment How to deal with a family that is separated
Since his dad comes home every weekend, I don't think it's a separation in the traditional sense, just a work thing.