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comment Strategies for identified but unavoidable distractions
He has been this way his entire life. I noted already that he gets distracted even on things he enjoys. That includes TV and video games. For example, after an hour of Minecraft he often ends up with nothing else than seeds and one or two mob drops, because he constantly moves from one distraction to another within the game. He watches TV in 5 minute spurts then does something else. Basically, he doesn't spend more than 5 minutes on anything, fun or boring, without an adult constantly putting him back on track.
Sep
1
comment Strategies for identified but unavoidable distractions
He is not officially diagnosed, @AE, but he scores very strongly on the unofficial ADHD tests.
Aug
16
comment Is it bad practice for a parent to tell their children when they have a right/reason to cry?
Agreed. Phrasing is very important for validating the emotion.
Jul
29
comment My 5 year old step son has started crying about everything and wanting to go to moms
FYI, my 5 year-old behaves similarly when she doesn't get her way, and her mother and I have been married for 18 years. My 8 year-old went through a similar phase. It's possible you might be reading too much into it.
Jul
20
comment Private school vs bad public school for a young child
Unfortunately, since I read these for my own edification, I don't keep a bibliography that makes them easy to find later. Here's one article I found with a quick search that deals with forming attitudes about whether you're good at math.
Jul
7
comment What is the most appropriate way to address contrarianism in a 4-year-old?
Agreed about the sometimes. It's important to allow choices whenever feasible.
Jul
2
comment Behavior changes after social events
It's broader than that; this was just one example, but that's a good insight. In fact, we are already working on it.
Jul
2
comment Behavior changes after social events
I doubt it in this case. I think that would make him very secretive about the whole thing, but it's a good thought.
Jul
2
comment Behavior changes after social events
It's the personal gain kind of lying. For example, he stole a stack of iron from his cousin in minecraft (which requires a significant investment of time to gather) and lied about where he got it. He knows that results in a loss of minecraft privileges, because he has done it before, but was at least honest about it last time.
Jul
1
comment How can I explain to my 4 year old that his friend has moved away?
The way to do it would be asking your friends to pass along your contact info, then the new family can choose whether or not to contact you. Keep in mind there's a good chance the kids are going back to their birth parents or a relative.
Jun
30
comment Why does my 16-year-old hate me?
I'm not sure why the downvotes, but just to make it absolutely clear, I don't think this is your fault at all. I'm focusing on your response only because you have no control over his.
Jun
29
comment Behavior changes after social events
I mean events where he's mostly around other kids, not his sisters, for several hours for multiple days. This question isn't about how to stop the lying. We have quite a bit of experience doing that at this point. It just takes several weeks to break the habit, then these events seem to reset him back to zero. I'd like to prevent the reset, or at least understand why it happens.
Jun
23
comment Suggestions on keeping a soon to be 7 year old engaged during summer vacation
One word: Pinterest.
Jun
19
comment One year old scared of the doctor and similar situations
My 8 year old still cries at the doctor if he thinks there's even a slight possibility of a shot.
Jun
16
comment Overcoming a fear of the stove
That's a good idea about placing it lower. I use a portable induction cooktop that could easily be moved down.
Jun
16
comment Overcoming a fear of the stove
@Erik, she's mostly just naturally cautious. She feels the heat and backs away.
Jun
16
comment Overcoming a fear of the stove
@Joe, she definitely likes helping with cookies and such, she's just shown no desire to do the putting in the oven part. With eggs, the stove part is unavoidable.
Jun
16
comment Overcoming a fear of the stove
The oven too, but she hasn't shown any interest in doing that part yet.
Jun
16
comment Overcoming a fear of the stove
More like the 18 inch one.
Jun
16
comment Overcoming a fear of the stove
She uses a two-step stepstool. She's quite steady on it and uses it for many different purposes.