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We had many hours of training to be foster parents for a year, and were reimbursed our expenses by the county, so I jokingly say we were professional parents. We have witnessed the effects of very bad parenting first hand, and learned many different ways to reverse those effects, often with professional guidance.

We've parented a wide gamut of children. Some of our foster children were of a different ethnicity than us. Our oldest daughter has cerebral palsy, we adopted our son, and our youngest was a surprise baby after thinking we couldn't have children without fertility treatments.

After she was born our plate was too full to continue fostering, but we are grateful for the experience, and I hope to be able to pass on some of what we have learned on this site. In a few years when we have teens I expect you all to return the favor.

We recently started homeschooling our children, which should be a source of interesting questions.


Jan
10
comment How to break the cycle of lies?
He definitely understands. Like I said, it's hard to describe in words, and I came across a little more exaggerated than I intended, but it's not being a game to him.
Jan
9
asked How to teach civil rights to children who don't know about racism?
Jan
9
comment How to break the cycle of lies?
Yes, it seems like he thinks he's fooling us. I don't think he's aware he could be making things easier on himself, or he doesn't care. I think it's partially the ADHD trait of not giving future consequences as much weight as the present. To him, a light consequence now is worse than a heavy consequence later.
Jan
9
comment How to break the cycle of lies?
He smiles with wide eye contact and overcompensating nodding, with a sort of lilt to his voice, but at the same time looking like he's trying to act naturally. It's hard to describe in words. "That was fast. Did you finish eating?" "YeeeeEEEEeees" (large nod) "Are you lying?" "NoooOOOOooo" (large head shake) "I'm going to check, are you sure you aren't lying?" (Puts his eyes up to think for a moment) "NoOOOoo, I'm not lying." (large shake). He's slowly getting better at the subtlety, though.
Jan
9
asked How to break the cycle of lies?
Jan
9
revised What are appropriate methods for disciplining a primary schooler for lying?
add lying tag
Jan
9
comment How do you address a 5 year old that has problems accepting corrections?
Mythbusters is another good example. A few episodes per season are dedicated to "how great it is to learn from our mistakes."
Jan
8
revised How do we prepare for a long car journey with a 2 month old?
Restored original style
Jan
7
answered Counting out of context words?
Jan
7
reviewed Reviewed Can a Stepfather and Stepson relationship work well?
Jan
7
reviewed Reviewed What are some do's and dont's for an effective bedtime ritual?
Jan
7
reviewed Close How long is it okay for a baby to remain on just breastfeed?
Jan
6
awarded  Talkative
Jan
6
answered Is 4 years old too young to expect them to try to handle their own social situations during play at home?
Jan
6
comment Is 4 years old too young to expect them to try to handle their own social situations during play at home?
Just a friendly reminder about our voting policy‌​. We don't want to discourage people from asking questions with a basis others might disagree with. We want this site to be a safe place to receive gentle correction on your misconceptions.
Jan
3
answered We are beginning the process to foster and adopt a second child, how do we temper our first child's expectations?
Jan
2
reviewed Reject suggested edit on Is there any research on the effects of PG cartoon violence on small children?
Jan
2
answered How do I convince a stubborn 8 year old that the parents are supposed to be in charge?
Dec
31
comment When a child only gets enthused about books above his reading level
He's perfectly happy looking at the pictures. The concern is when those books are available, he is not happy reading anything else. He reads at grade level and is improving, but he gets bored with it very quickly at the smallest difficulty, and I don't want reading to be a negative experience for him. He is homeschooled, so his reading at home isn't merely a supplemental bonus. I'm looking for ways to help him be enthusiastic about reading books at his own level.
Dec
31
asked When a child only gets enthused about books above his reading level