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We had many hours of training to be foster parents for a year, and were reimbursed our expenses by the county, so I jokingly say we were professional parents. We have witnessed the effects of very bad parenting first hand, and learned many different ways to reverse those effects, often with professional guidance.

We've parented a wide gamut of children. Some of our foster children were of a different ethnicity than us. Our oldest daughter has cerebral palsy, we adopted our son, and our youngest was a surprise baby after thinking we couldn't have children without fertility treatments.

After she was born our plate was too full to continue fostering, but we are grateful for the experience, and I hope to be able to pass on some of what we have learned on this site. In a few years when we have teens I expect you all to return the favor.

We recently started homeschooling our children, which should be a source of interesting questions.


Jan
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revised How to decide which stroller to buy?
Fix grammar and remove salutation
Jan
16
comment Should my 13-month-old's tummy be this fat?
Taken care of, but please note it's pretty much impossible to remove something from the entirety of the Internet, so please be more cautious in the future. Also please edit your post with a description so the question still makes sense to future visitors.
Jan
16
awarded  Nice Answer
Jan
15
answered Are there any effects from lying to your children?
Jan
14
accepted How to help a child not be afraid to struggle with things that are easy for her older brother?
Jan
14
awarded  Convention
Jan
14
comment My pre-schooler is out of control, and I feel like my parents are undermining my relationship and authority with her
The "ask mommy" recommendation is excellent.
Jan
14
answered My pre-schooler is out of control, and I feel like my parents are undermining my relationship and authority with her
Jan
11
answered Should we put siblings in the same kindergarten group?
Jan
10
revised How to teach civil rights to children who don't know about racism?
linkify the book
Jan
10
comment How to break the cycle of lies?
I like the "Boy Who Cried Wolf" idea, which multiple people have brought up. It might help him internalize that he is harming himself by lying.
Jan
10
reviewed Approve suggested edit on What do we do when timeouts are not effective?
Jan
10
comment How to break the cycle of lies?
The avoiding factual questions is an excellent idea. You should expand that into an answer.
Jan
10
comment How to break the cycle of lies?
He definitely understands. Like I said, it's hard to describe in words, and I came across a little more exaggerated than I intended, but it's not being a game to him.
Jan
9
asked How to teach civil rights to children who don't know about racism?
Jan
9
comment How to break the cycle of lies?
Yes, it seems like he thinks he's fooling us. I don't think he's aware he could be making things easier on himself, or he doesn't care. I think it's partially the ADHD trait of not giving future consequences as much weight as the present. To him, a light consequence now is worse than a heavy consequence later.
Jan
9
comment How to break the cycle of lies?
He smiles with wide eye contact and overcompensating nodding, with a sort of lilt to his voice, but at the same time looking like he's trying to act naturally. It's hard to describe in words. "That was fast. Did you finish eating?" "YeeeeEEEEeees" (large nod) "Are you lying?" "NoooOOOOooo" (large head shake) "I'm going to check, are you sure you aren't lying?" (Puts his eyes up to think for a moment) "NoOOOoo, I'm not lying." (large shake). He's slowly getting better at the subtlety, though.
Jan
9
asked How to break the cycle of lies?
Jan
9
revised What are appropriate methods for disciplining a primary schooler for lying?
add lying tag
Jan
9
comment How do you address a 5 year old that has problems accepting corrections?
Mythbusters is another good example. A few episodes per season are dedicated to "how great it is to learn from our mistakes."