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We had many hours of training to be foster parents for a year, and were reimbursed our expenses by the county, so I jokingly say we were professional parents. We have witnessed the effects of very bad parenting first hand, and learned many different ways to reverse those effects, often with professional guidance.

We've parented a wide gamut of children. Some of our foster children were of a different ethnicity than us. Our oldest daughter has cerebral palsy, we adopted our son, and our youngest was a surprise baby after thinking we couldn't have children without fertility treatments.

After she was born our plate was too full to continue fostering, but we are grateful for the experience, and I hope to be able to pass on some of what we have learned on this site. In a few years when we have teens I expect you all to return the favor.

We recently started homeschooling our children, which should be a source of interesting questions.


May
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awarded  Custodian
May
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reviewed Close 20 month old boy quit staying in his bed at bedtime
May
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reviewed Edit How to keep a sick infant fed and hydrated?
May
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revised How to keep a sick infant fed and hydrated?
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May
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reviewed Leave Open How do I deal with my mother who is not supporting me, probably because of her grandchild?
May
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reviewed Reviewed Arguments for/against same birthday for siblings?
May
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reviewed Reopen is it apropriate age for 3 year old to play with 9 year old
May
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comment Teaching my 10 year old son appropriate bathroom manners
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May
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answered Adult social media etiquette
Apr
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reviewed Reject suggested edit on Caring for three under three: In what ways can the father help?
Apr
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awarded  Yearling
Apr
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awarded  Nice Answer
Apr
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comment Why does my daughter smile and start to laugh at me when I am noticeably really angry at her?
Hmm, I will have to research further. I would take her word over mine. Like I said, my daughter has other conditions and hasn't been officially diagnosed. Her apparent difficulty empathizing could be due to another condition, or may be just an outward appearance that doesn't reflect her inner thoughts.
Apr
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answered Why does my daughter smile and start to laugh at me when I am noticeably really angry at her?
Apr
22
reviewed Approve suggested edit on How to explain to a 9-year-old why a relative is not welcome
Apr
21
comment Just found out my 13 year old girl is Bi and dating a 17 year old girl in an “open” relationship. Huh? Now what?
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Apr
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accepted Getting stuck on the wrong answer
Apr
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comment Getting stuck on the wrong answer
Also, what exactly about the military made hyperfocus less of an issue for you? It seems to me like military service would require a great deal of focus, just in a different way than a classroom.
Apr
18
comment Getting stuck on the wrong answer
Thanks, very useful. Could you provide more details about the self-taught skills? I'd like to try to actively teach those kinds of skills instead of both him and us being frustrated until he eventually figures it out by trial and error like you did. The main reason we homeschool is so we can tailor his education to the way he learns, instead of the other way around. In other words, what do you wish your teachers would do to help you focus on the right thing?
Apr
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comment Just found out my 13 year old girl is Bi and dating a 17 year old girl in an “open” relationship. Huh? Now what?
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