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We had many hours of training to be foster parents for a year, and were reimbursed our expenses by the county, so I jokingly say we were professional parents. We have witnessed the effects of very bad parenting first hand, and learned many different ways to reverse those effects, often with professional guidance.

We've parented a wide gamut of children. Some of our foster children were of a different ethnicity than us. Our oldest daughter has cerebral palsy, we adopted our son, and our youngest was a surprise baby after thinking we couldn't have children without fertility treatments.

After she was born our plate was too full to continue fostering, but we are grateful for the experience, and I hope to be able to pass on some of what we have learned on this site. In a few years when we have teens I expect you all to return the favor.

We recently started homeschooling our children, which should be a source of interesting questions.


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asked When a child only gets enthused about books above his reading level
Dec
23
comment How can self-consciousness be taught?
With help, kind of. It's hard to tell with him if it really sunk in or not.
Dec
23
comment How can self-consciousness be taught?
@balancedmama, sometimes when he makes a comment about being lonely, we explain the connection to him, but he doesn't seem to consider it in the moment. It seems a little harsh to remind him of it beforehand. What would I say? "Remember to act like the other kids or no one will want to be your friend."?
Dec
23
comment How can self-consciousness be taught?
@Mike, if it were time to time it wouldn't concern me. This is a continuous, pervasive issue for him. Also, he isn't learning from it.
Dec
23
asked How can self-consciousness be taught?
Dec
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reviewed Approve suggested edit on How do you disinfect toys?
Dec
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awarded  Good Answer
Dec
11
answered How to Teach That Following Rules is Not Always Good?
Dec
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reviewed Approve suggested edit on when do children start answering questions ?
Dec
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asked How to help a child not be afraid to struggle with things that are easy for her older brother?
Dec
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answered Considering Fostering - How would this effect the child I already have?
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awarded  Enlightened
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Nov
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comment What constitutes verbal abuse of one's child?
My answer, which I wrote before the edits, is about recognizing verbal abuse in yourself. It's easy to know your own intent.
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awarded  Good Answer
Nov
22
comment The school has assigned reading I feel is inappropriate for my son to read. How do I approach this problem with the school and with my son?
@barrycarter, there isn't a specific book list for common core. You can see here that the literature standards are quite generic and broad. However, there has been some controversy for common core's heavy promotion of non-fiction "informational texts," which many people feel has displaced classroom time for fiction, especially the classics. Common core would have left less time for a popular fiction book, if anything.
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reviewed Approve suggested edit on The school has assigned reading I feel is inappropriate for my son to read. How do I approach this problem with the school and with my son?
Nov
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answered The school has assigned reading I feel is inappropriate for my son to read. How do I approach this problem with the school and with my son?
Nov
20
reviewed Approve suggested edit on The school has assigned reading I feel is inappropriate for my son to read. How do I approach this problem with the school and with my son?