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We had many hours of training to be foster parents for a year, and were reimbursed our expenses by the county, so I jokingly say we were professional parents. We have witnessed the effects of very bad parenting first hand, and learned many different ways to reverse those effects, often with professional guidance.

We've parented a wide gamut of children. Some of our foster children were of a different ethnicity than us. Our oldest daughter has cerebral palsy, we adopted our son, and our youngest was a surprise baby after thinking we couldn't have children without fertility treatments.

After she was born our plate was too full to continue fostering, but we are grateful for the experience, and I hope to be able to pass on some of what we have learned on this site. In a few years when we have teens I expect you all to return the favor.

We recently started homeschooling our children, which should be a source of interesting questions.


Mar
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answered 8 year old son, misbehaving at school. help!
Mar
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answered How can I talk my son through his competition anxiety?
Mar
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answered what's typical for birthday parties in the USA?
Feb
28
comment Is it safe for a pregnant woman to be around someone smoking “e-cigarettes”?
Great answer. Here's a recent study that specifically states more research is needed to know either way.
Feb
27
comment When will we know if our child is left- or right-handed?
That comports with my experience, although during ages 3 and 4, my children often would try to use their left hand anyway, and be frustrated because they couldn't figure out why it was so awkward compared to the last time.
Feb
27
comment Adopt before giving birth, or give birth before adopting?
If it ever gets to a point where there are so many families trying to adopt that it's impossible to keep up with demand, the length of the waiting list will just increase. People who have been waiting longer get first priority after considerations like a good personal fit. Trust me, they do everything in their power to "keep it fair," but they always have to consider who is ready and willing to adopt right now. They're not going to keep a child in foster care if there's a large family ready to adopt now because it might be unfair to a childless couple who will be ready in two years.
Feb
27
comment Adopt before giving birth, or give birth before adopting?
@Chrys, while that might be true for newborn babies, the fact is there are about 2-3 times as many children in the U.S. waiting for adoption as there are adoptions any given year. Child welfare agencies are always in desperate need of more families willing to adopt or foster. The idea that you shouldn't consider adoption when you already have a child is frankly misguided.
Feb
27
answered Adopt before giving birth, or give birth before adopting?
Feb
26
comment How to help a child not copy her older sibling's behavior
Well, except she remembers his behavior from yesterday.
Feb
26
comment How to help a child not copy her older sibling's behavior
I repeat the question to see if they were at least paying good enough attention to copy each other, which I consider to be a minimum standard of attention. On the days they can handle that, I move on to independent questions.
Feb
26
comment Getting stuck on the wrong answer
We're in the process of getting him to see a psychiatrist. I just wondered if parents of similar children had insights.
Feb
26
comment Getting stuck on the wrong answer
We do it both to teach the content of the video and to work on their listening and comprehension skills. It probably seems weird because most families outsource those lessons, but we homeschool so things like this are a natural part of our daily family routine. I should note that it's not just this one video per day where he gets "stuck" like that. This is just a representative example. It's not just academic questions, but also questions like, "Where did you put your toy?"
Feb
26
asked How to help a child not copy her older sibling's behavior
Feb
26
asked Getting stuck on the wrong answer
Feb
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awarded  Nice Answer
Feb
19
comment Need help getting toddler to take prednisolone
You might try a stronger juice, something that's already somewhat bitter, like grapefruit or cranberry.
Feb
19
revised What role do imaginary friends play in a child's development?
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Feb
16
comment How can my toddler learn to stay under the blanket at night?
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Feb
14
comment My 3 year old grandson always lays down when he plays. It Is this normal?
Note that being precocious doesn't preclude a learning disability. This situation is common enough to have its own name: twice exceptional.
Feb
13
reviewed No Action Needed What can I do to get my 5 year old to have respect and self control?