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We had many hours of training to be foster parents for a year, and were reimbursed our expenses by the county, so I jokingly say we were professional parents. We have witnessed the effects of very bad parenting first hand, and learned many different ways to reverse those effects, often with professional guidance.

We've parented a wide gamut of children. Some of our foster children were of a different ethnicity than us. Our oldest daughter has cerebral palsy, we adopted our son, and our youngest was a surprise baby after thinking we couldn't have children without fertility treatments.

After she was born our plate was too full to continue fostering, but we are grateful for the experience, and I hope to be able to pass on some of what we have learned on this site. In a few years when we have teens I expect you all to return the favor.

We recently started homeschooling our children, which should be a source of interesting questions.


Apr
22
answered Why does my daughter smile and start to laugh at me when I am noticeably really angry at her?
Apr
22
reviewed Approve suggested edit on How to explain to a 9-year-old why a relative is not welcome
Apr
21
comment Just found out my 13 year old girl is Bi and dating a 17 year old girl in an “open” relationship. Huh? Now what?
Please take discussion to Parenting Chat and don't put answers in comments.
Apr
18
accepted Getting stuck on the wrong answer
Apr
18
comment Getting stuck on the wrong answer
Also, what exactly about the military made hyperfocus less of an issue for you? It seems to me like military service would require a great deal of focus, just in a different way than a classroom.
Apr
18
comment Getting stuck on the wrong answer
Thanks, very useful. Could you provide more details about the self-taught skills? I'd like to try to actively teach those kinds of skills instead of both him and us being frustrated until he eventually figures it out by trial and error like you did. The main reason we homeschool is so we can tailor his education to the way he learns, instead of the other way around. In other words, what do you wish your teachers would do to help you focus on the right thing?
Apr
16
comment Just found out my 13 year old girl is Bi and dating a 17 year old girl in an “open” relationship. Huh? Now what?
Please take discussion to Parenting Chat.
Apr
15
comment How to help my wife cope w/ being a stay-at-home mom
As it's a problem essentially unique to parents, I'm inclined to allow it.
Apr
11
awarded  Nice Answer
Apr
11
comment Classmates choosing soccer tournament over my sons birthday party
Just to clarify, are the boys watching soccer or playing it?
Apr
9
answered Is it fair (or adequate) to ask a 4 yr old to stop crying for some reason?
Apr
4
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Apr
2
comment How often should I defeat my children in games?
Related: parenting.stackexchange.com/q/7393/644
Mar
28
comment My toddler is waking up with crust on the inside of her eyes, should I be concerned?
Some concerns were raised about disagreeing with a doctor. Doctors tend to treat for the most likely scenario, so you should try what they recommend first, but this is good advice if their recommended treatment doesn't help.
Mar
25
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Mar
24
awarded  Nice Answer
Mar
21
comment What's the most efficient way to dress a toddler?
I guess it depends on the child. It worked for all of mine.
Mar
21
answered How to deal with children succeeding because of their parent's efforts rather than their own?
Mar
21
awarded  Good Answer
Mar
20
awarded  Nice Answer