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We had many hours of training to be foster parents for a year, and were reimbursed our expenses by the county, so I jokingly say we were professional parents. We have witnessed the effects of very bad parenting first hand, and learned many different ways to reverse those effects, often with professional guidance.

We've parented a wide gamut of children. Some of our foster children were of a different ethnicity than us. Our oldest daughter has cerebral palsy, we adopted our son, and our youngest was a surprise baby after thinking we couldn't have children without fertility treatments.

After she was born our plate was too full to continue fostering, but we are grateful for the experience, and I hope to be able to pass on some of what we have learned on this site. In a few years when we have teens I expect you all to return the favor.

We also began homeschooling our children after having multiple problems at public school. My son went from behind in reading to 2 or 3 grade levels ahead.


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comment Improving verbal learning
The length of the instruction doesn't matter much. We don't give him more than one step at a time anymore. He can hear fine, but it's like between his ears and his brain he substitutes his own idea of what he thought you meant to say. He will often quote our exact words then proceed to do the exact opposite.
Oct
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reviewed Approve Should I clean my newborn's umbilical cord stump or leave it be?
Oct
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revised Improving verbal learning
Fix terminology based on further research. Auditory != verbal
Oct
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answered Explaining sexual attraction
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asked Improving verbal learning
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answered Techniques for handling teenagers “playing dumb” about things
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comment For a long flight, would freezing breast milk simplify transporting it?
I apologize for the US-centric answer, as I just noticed you're located in Singapore. However, I believe such standards are internationally coordinated to a certain degree, as planes from one country need to meet certain standards if they expect to be allowed to land in another country.
Oct
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answered For a long flight, would freezing breast milk simplify transporting it?
Oct
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comment Effect of homeschool on college chances?
That's just it. They care about work as much as, if not more than, knowledge. People without a good GPA must prove they've worked significantly in other areas. I'm a very self-directed learner, which is why I mostly hated college, but I still got good grades because I worked hard. Convince them you can get good grades even when you aren't intrinsically motivated by the subject and the classroom format. There are other ways, but the easiest way is to get good grades in high school or community college. High SAT scores will only offset perhaps one GPA point.
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answered Effect of homeschool on college chances?
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comment How to handle disclosing a parent's suicide to friends and their parents
If the cat's already out of the bag, that changes things, but I still think the general principle applies to when your kids are ready to confirm or deny the rumor and go into more detail.
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answered How to handle disclosing a parent's suicide to friends and their parents
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answered How do I help my third-grader focus on homework?
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answered Stuttering Suddenly
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answered Balancing children's needs with a parent's own needs
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answered How structured does a child's life need to be?
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answered What is an ideal age duration for a permanent bonding to happen between parents and child?
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answered Is putting a 9-year-old to bed early abusive?
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