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We had many hours of training to be foster parents for a year, and were reimbursed our expenses by the county, so I jokingly say we were professional parents. We have witnessed the effects of very bad parenting first hand, and learned many different ways to reverse those effects, often with professional guidance.

We've parented a wide gamut of children. Some of our foster children were of a different ethnicity than us. Our oldest daughter has cerebral palsy, we adopted our son, and our youngest was a surprise baby after thinking we couldn't have children without fertility treatments.

After she was born our plate was too full to continue fostering, but we are grateful for the experience, and I hope to be able to pass on some of what we have learned on this site. In a few years when we have teens I expect you all to return the favor.

We recently started homeschooling our children, which should be a source of interesting questions.


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asked Why would a child choose to sleep on the floor?
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awarded  Nice Answer
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comment The great debate: Minivan or SUV
@Joe, if you feel an edit would improve the question, please feel free to do so.
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comment The great debate: Minivan or SUV
I like how my parents put it when I was learning to drive. 4WD helps you start, but doesn't help you stop.
Nov
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comment Parents' experience of leaving water warts (molluscum contagiosum) untreated?
Thanks for sharing your experience. I removed the part about the treatment. See the meta discussion about this question for more information.
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revised Parents' experience of leaving water warts (molluscum contagiosum) untreated?
remove the part about treatment
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comment Assertiveness for 6-year-olds
Thanks for the feedback. I made a bad assumption because usually those traits go together. See my edits.
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revised Assertiveness for 6-year-olds
change advice based on comment
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answered Assertiveness for 6-year-olds
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awarded  Good Answer
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answered The great debate: Minivan or SUV
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comment Explaining mental illness to children
That's a good point, @Joe. I would probably word a response to that follow-up like, "Her brain works differently than most people's do, which makes her get worried about things you don't need to worry about."
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comment Explaining mental illness to children
Thanks for toning it down, so your good points don't get lost. +1 from me after your edits. I too know adults who took a very long time to get over the effects of having their feelings "protected" as a child. Candor in these sorts of cases is uncomfortable for adults, but critical for children. Tact is important too, but in my experience people tend to err too far in that direction. If you don't feel like you're being a little untactful in these situations, you're probably not being honest enough.
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awarded  Nice Answer
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answered Explaining mental illness to children
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revised Co-Parenting with a Toxic Ex: How to Handle Poisoned Comments from Toddler?
fix typo
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revised Visitation issue
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reviewed Approve suggested edit on Visitation issue
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reviewed Reviewed Making the child finish their food even if they are already full