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Feb
25
comment How can you deal with tantrums without spanking?
@tomjedrz everyone is still alive, I am proud to report!
Nov
4
comment What should be done when your child wakes up from a nap and is extremely irritable?
We find that some children tend to wake "harder" than others from sleep and naps. It's tough.
Aug
31
comment What are some suggestions for punishing a child?
I love that your rules apply to you, too! We try to do this in various ways, so it's clear that the rules are fair. For example, after one incident with a minor spanking at daycare, we told our child this was not acceptable because "we don't hit" and we made a great big deal out of the fact that we talked to the daycare provider and told them physical hitting wasn't acceptable -- and they apologized to our child. We applied the same rules to the adults as the child. It's only fair.
Aug
30
comment What food should I buy for my spouse so that she can produce more natural milk for my toddler?
this question originates from the author's comments in parenting.stackexchange.com/questions/5942/…
Jun
14
comment Thermometer for babies and children
yes, us too, speed and ease (and accuracy!) of reading is paramount with children, and this works a treat
Feb
28
comment Email and social media for pre-teens
@monsto interesting, do you have a similar attitude toward laws about the drinking age? I agree that "follow the rules" isn't the full story, and I agree with your answer here about explaining what the risks are. But these sorts of age laws (generally) exist for a reason, to protect children. My attitude is that laws, such as legal drinking and internet use ages, should always be followed unless there is some clear and compelling and exceptional reason not to.
Dec
29
comment Email and social media for pre-teens
better for the "law" to be the bad guy instead of the parents, though -- and if this is an option it should be used.
Dec
29
comment How to teach the importance of being considerate?
I find that narration (describing what you do in words as you do it) is tremendously helpful, and over time, the repetition seems to be sinking in with our toddler.
Dec
29
comment How do I deal with my pre-schooler's over tired behavior after school?
can you be more specific? I am having a hard time understanding what "in the afternoon she goes crazy" means in practice.
Dec
2
comment How do you potty train for overnight?
can you link to these alarms?
Dec
1
comment At what age does a toddler stop being a toddler?
@ben and yet your question originated on parenting, which speaks volumes. There's absolutely no reason to kick it over to english.se. This delineation generally only comes up in the context of, and requiring the expertise of, people who have experience with children. Questions should stay where the experts who can best answer that question are, most of all.
Nov
30
comment At what age does a toddler stop being a toddler?
@wai the question directly gets to expertise in being a parent (or pediatrician, etc), not expertise in the english language. The definitions of "baby" "toddler" "child" rely on expertise (or at least experience with) specific child developmental milestones, in exactly the same way that the definition of "monad" requires programming expertise. See stackoverflow.com/questions/44965/what-is-a-monad
Nov
30
comment At what age does a toddler stop being a toddler?
this question belongs on parenting; you might as well argue that specific questions about programming terminology belong on english.se instead of Stack Overflow or Programmers, which is completely nonsensical. I will also add that as a parent this is EXACTLY the question my wife and I asked each other about our child -- when does he stop being a baby and become a toddler? It's the only time it ever came up in our lives. We even had debates about it.
Nov
28
comment At what age does a toddler stop being a toddler?
Good citation. Not sure why the other answers are being upvoted when they are little more than "here's what I think.."
Oct
2
comment Is “hot saucing” bad parenting?
usually physical punishments are at the end of a series of escalations in lesser forms of punishment -- a stern talking to, removing something the child likes, etc etc. Presumably the reasons were discussed as part of the earlier, lesser punishments.
Jun
16
comment Should we circumcise our son?
If you'd like to present scientific data, fine, but posting explicit videos to make your point is not acceptable behavior. Anything prefaced by "warning: contains blood, nudity, and may be upsetting" simply isn't appropriate here. Let's stick to the science. Thanks!
Jun
13
comment Should we circumcise our son?
@sai it's irreversible like piercing of ears is irreversible.. it's a very minor cosmetic change to the human body for the benefits cited above. There are tons of "unnatural" things we do to our bodies in the name of medical science, so it just depends if you agree with the studies cited above about the benefits or not. IMHO it's really not a big deal either way.
Jun
13
comment Should we circumcise our son?
also per aafp.org/online/en/home/clinical/clinicalrecs/guidelines/… "No valid evidence to date, however, supports the notion that being circumcised affects sexual sensation or satisfaction."
Jun
13
comment Should we circumcise our son?
There's a lot of opinion here with precious little scientific data backing it. While I'll be the first to admit that the circumcision data is at best mixed -- meaning neither pro or con are particularly strong -- to say that "Frankly, the belief that circumcision has any material health benefits is just plain wrong" is, ironically, wrong.. per The American Academy of Pediatrics "existing scientific evidence demonstrates potential medical benefits of newborn male circumcision"
Jun
13
comment Should we circumcise our son?
@lennart rather than comments I expanded my position into an answer below.