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comment How to treat an obstinate 3-and-a-half years old child daughter?
Dupe? parenting.stackexchange.com/questions/6084/… ?
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comment What is a polite way to ask others not to comment on baby girl only for her looks?
"without laying on a guilt trip" - +1 for actually understanding human psychology.
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comment What is a polite way to ask others not to comment on baby girl only for her looks?
@NeMo - Yup. Babies are totally useless. Bummer.
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comment At what age is it suggested to enounciate specific expectations around sexual activity?
@rotard - if they have a misfortune to have sex in Sweden and/or People's Republic of California, that would actually probably be a good idea, despite being entirely stolen from the Onion by its level of ridiculousness. No sex is worth getting arrested and charged with rape. That's it, new rules. No sex in California. Ever.
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comment At what age is it suggested to enounciate specific expectations around sexual activity?
@Erik - I agree. My question is, when is it best to start repetitions.
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comment At what age is it suggested to enounciate specific expectations around sexual activity?
@Dariusz - the goal is for the kid to say that - and mean it.
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comment Why does my 16-year-old hate me?
Also, does he do the same thing (try to deliberately hurt, physically or emotionally) other people? 3% of people are sociopaths, and plenty enough enjoy hurting others in and out of itself, without a cause. While I'm loath to suggest your child is one of them (and pattern of self-hurt isn't suggestive of that possibility), the chances are NOT zero.
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comment Why does my 16-year-old hate me?
@Julie4435637 - this may be too personal to answer, but was he actually diagnosed with depression? The asnwer may depend on that a lot.
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comment Why does my 16-year-old hate me?
What is his reaction to another parent's suggestions/ideas (assuming another parent is in the picture to make them)? What about other adults of influence? (mentor? teacher? older siblings/cousins? more remote family members?)
Jun
26
comment How strict should I be with my 9 month old?
This would be an awsome answer if there was some citation for the (presumably correct) assertion "Children at 9 months really don't understand cause and effect yet"
Jun
19
comment How should I inform parents if their children are bothering me?
@deworde - yes and no. If someone yells in your ear, it's your problem caused by their behavior. The question lies in where you place the boundary between reasonably acceptable behavior vs. unreasonably impactful one. And it's largely cultural - as the OP noted, the rules used to be for children to be quiet and NOT bother adults for a large swath of history. (or for unrelated topic, you used to consider that someone smoking on the bus is expected and reasonable. Most Western countries, that isn't true anymore).
Jun
8
comment Teaching children how to fight back
Personal experience: best (and from my observation, only) real way of deterring a bully is making the bully dead sure that you will hurt them. Whether that requires actually exibiting that on bully's hide depends on a situation, bully, and your luck. Unfortunately, modern Westen culture keeps forgetting Orwell's maxim about pacifism.
Jun
8
comment How do we avoid leaky diapers at night?
+1 especially for #3
Jun
5
comment Is there a downside to giving a preschooler band-aids when he doesn't really need them?
@ida - please see "magic kiss" in #1. That addresses what you describe, I think
Jun
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comment How much should a 26 y.o. adult child assist their parents?
@Erica - I agree. I can't be sure but seems the OP was referring to the typical "American kids sponging off their parents while in their 20s" narrative, popular in US culture/media since 2000 and especially 2008. The emphasis being on sponging off of, not merely living together.
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comment What is a good physical activity for a seven-year old who loves falling down?
imdb.com/title/tt0430634/quotes?item=qt0336744
May
29
comment How to deal with the story books which indicate stealing to be okay/good?
Extra bonus reading: Aladdin; 1001 Nights in general, Robin Hood
May
29
comment How to raise a child between agnostic parent and believer relatives?
As a trivial non-detailed example: if you think any killing is bad - George Orwell has some pretty un-nice things to say about you. If you think some killing is justified, Ghandi thinks you're way wrong. etc...
May
29
comment How to raise a child between agnostic parent and believer relatives?
.... there's a reason why people wrote endless volumes on ethics and philosophy, and not ALL of them were, in Mel Brooks' words, "BS artists"
May
29
comment How to raise a child between agnostic parent and believer relatives?
You seem too sure of your own ethical system. "I want my child to not to do bad things because the bad things are bad" - things aren't quite that simple or clear cut. Who gets to decide what's "bad"? You (if so, aren't you simply substituting yourself for god?) Your child (do you trust a 5 year old to decide what's good or bad?)? Majority vote (or who? people who are guaranteed to think like you)? Memetic evolutionary process in human culture? Many people have many widely varying definitions of what "bad" means, more so once you start getting into the devilish level of nitty gritty details.