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Mar
28
comment From what age should one heed “But I'm not cold!”?
@Buzz - actually, cold can contribute to lowered immune response against cold viruses. skeptics.stackexchange.com/questions/88/… (I actually found more recent research to support that but didn't have time to edit it into that answer yet)
Mar
28
comment How to talk to my 13 yearold son about innapropriate commnets
@anongoodnurse - I'll try to rustle up some references, if i do I'll try to post, thanks
Mar
28
comment How should the children be taught to be wary of physically present strangers?
@anongoodnurse - yes, that was the sentence I meant. The approach I was taught was far stronger (don't even mention the concept of a stranger in this context), though based on similar reasoning. I wasn't provided with any meaningful references, however, back then.
Mar
28
comment How to talk to my 13 yearold son about innapropriate commnets
@anongoodnurse - I completely agree about the latter part (owning up) being important. My point is with the approach, not the outcome/goal - efficacy of different approaches would differ.
Mar
28
comment How to deal with my dad's semi-destructive behavior?
I'm randomly guessing that PNA is Nursing Assistant? if so, as another commenter noted, you should start off by talking to PNAs and may be the hospital, explain your interest, and find out exactly what the educational requirements are. Is it possible that college level biology and chemistry might be needed? Or Nursing degree of at least 2 or 4 years? You can't really make any decisions without information.
Mar
28
comment My step granddaughter orders expensive meals, but won't eat them
I like your version even better! (and a nice bit of parenting towards the adult "children). One more option is to only take out adults without the grandraughter, if she's an only child. A bit of an evening relaxation from annoying teen may be appreciated far more than a meal itself :)
Mar
28
comment Allergies: should we test them proactively?
"With most allergies, common signs will show LONG before a lethal reaction occurs." - is there research backing this up? It sounds intuitively correct, but so do many other things that aren't actually medically sound.
Mar
28
comment How should the children be taught to be wary of physically present strangers?
You kind of mentioned it in your answer, but one thing that I was told when researching this topic coulpe of years ago is that the major side effect of teaching the child to avoid strangers is precisely the fact that it will get them to ALSO fail to talk to police or other helpers when warranted, so "stranger-nonstranger" concept shouldn't even be introduced.
Mar
28
comment How to talk to my 13 yearold son about innapropriate commnets
The problem with this advice is that it is nearly guaranteed to fail to work - the way you suggest approching this will seem to the child as if you are taking the side of his adversary. Unless it is explicitly paired with showing that the parent is on their side (e.g. only apologize if the other person apologizes for their comments), all your advice will do is isolate and anger the child further, since the ONLY person who was supposed to be 100% in their corner (the parent) is - in the child's view - against them now.
Mar
28
comment My step granddaughter orders expensive meals, but won't eat them
Another possible option to offer is to continue taking them out to dinner but with the stipulation that the grandmother ONLY pays for the parents' bills. The granddaughter's bill is up to the parents.
Mar
2
comment When is the right time to tell my daughter she's not my biological child?
+1 for the second paragraph. Unfortunately, -2 for the first paragraph - the OP can't possibly trust his (likely, antagonistic, and not implausibly based on facts presented, sociopathic) ex to present and especially frame the facts to the child in a way consistent with your intent in paragraph #2. More likely, she will deliberately do it in a way to sabotage the child's relationship with OP (A compromise to resolve the discrepancy between #1 and #2 paragraphs would be to hand the ex an exact script of what to say AND insist on OP being present when the conversation happens).
Nov
24
comment How do I tell if my child is advanced at maths?
Expertise level - I grew up as mathematically gifted child, hung around many of them (magnet type school and math olympiad training), later on taught them, and was friendly with many people who were successful experts in gifted math education circles (as in, they trained kids who went on to succeed in or win national level math olympiads, myself included).
Nov
24
comment How do I tell if my child is advanced at maths?
@dave - 130+ IQ kids most definitely require very different approaches to raising and educating them.
Nov
4
comment What names can a father-in-law use w former daughter-in-law after a divorce
Somewhat dumb suggestion perhaps - ask her what her preference would be. Worst case scenario, you get a smartass or insulting answer. Best case - she warms up to you, at least marginally.
Oct
26
comment What is a good system of organizing toys?
More seriously, this seems like a reasonably good system, so I'm unsure why you think it is insufficient. We have very similar.
Oct
26
comment What is a good system of organizing toys?
Rule #1 for organizing toys: Don't Bother :)
Oct
21
comment How to deal with controlling parents?
... and if they don't want to believe in burnout, you can easily find tons of examples. Heck, I was one (although in my case I pushed myself more than my parents did)
Oct
21
comment Moving to US with a 5 year old child
#2,#3, #4 should be bold and large font.
Oct
16
comment My son is texting to other boys acting as a girl
You forgot #4: it's "free porn". He gets the thrill from talking about sexual stuff (and unlike reading porn, this is interactive).
Oct
14
comment Are there any studies showing how spanking bans have affected society since 1979?
Was the most important data rebuttal refuted? "The best evidence suggests that perpetration of criminal assaults against 7-14 year-olds is increasing most rapidly in age groups raised after the law against smacking was passed."