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seen Feb 24 at 11:37

I'm a software engineer, SciFi geek, and a parent.

Areas of professional strength:

  • Perl expert (specifically enterprise software development)
  • Sybase (including design and optimization)
  • GUI design

Areas of familiarity:

  • Web programming (EmbPerl, JSP, CSS, HTML, JavaScript)
  • C++

...P.S. I'm not really 42. But 42 is way cooler than a real answer :)

...P.P.S. Don't read too much into the icon. Just a minor nod to Cryptonomicon.


Jan
17
comment When is it safe for a child to start boxing against a bag?
This is a really good answer, but not exactly what I was looking for. I am interested in damage as a result of stress, NOT traumatic injury risk.
Jan
17
comment How do I make sure kids don't run on the stairs?
"If they're forgetting their safety about the stairs, they're forgetting their safety about their toys, their aggression, etc" - definitely a correct assessment :) But I am not quite sure what you recommend as a solution?
Jan
17
comment When is it safe for a child to start boxing against a bag?
@balancedmama - 10 years? My Dad refused to teach me karate at 7, for the same precise reason. That was ... way more than 10, let's say :)
Jan
16
comment How do I make sure kids don't run on the stairs?
@KarlBielefeldt - post as an answer :)
Jan
16
comment How do I make sure kids don't run on the stairs?
Been there. Done that. Didn't learn a damn thing.
Jan
16
comment My pre-schooler is out of control, and I feel like my parents are undermining my relationship and authority with her
@user6460 - see my answer for elaboration, but what Torben said. Your Dad probably spends >$75/month on things he can be without (most humans do unless they are in extreme poverty - fast food, coffee, smokes, movies, other entertainment). Do it as a long term loan if you don't want to feel bad in front of your Dad.
Jan
16
comment My pre-schooler is out of control, and I feel like my parents are undermining my relationship and authority with her
"Mom threw a book at me" - if you were underage, that'd qualify as domestic/child abuse, alone.
Jan
16
comment How to stop parents from interfering with my love life?
@RebelSon - there's a new Dating and Relationships SE about to launch. Ask there :)
Jan
16
comment My pre-schooler is out of control, and I feel like my parents are undermining my relationship and authority with her
@user6460 - First, you should consider joining Parenting.SE chat - you can find more freeform communication there, and people some of whom may be willing to talk to you. Drop by, say hi. Second, wher JS said above - my oldest had his terrible twos from 3 to 4, and now at 7 :)
Jan
15
comment My pre-schooler is out of control, and I feel like my parents are undermining my relationship and authority with her
Also, I will reiterate same things others said - on one hand, your mom is definitely sabotaging you. On the other hand, a child behaving that way to you isn't entirely out of normal - you don't need to despair. She will likely change her attitude by 5-6 if you perservere. Important point is for you to NEVER lose your cool and lash out. NEVER. If you punish, it should be with clear head and not emotional.
Jan
15
comment How do you evaluate schools before a cross-country move?
I realize that the answer may be a bit too late arriving for OP, but hopefully will be of help to others.
Dec
3
comment When is a banana ripe enough to not cause constipation?
FYI: skeptics.stackexchange.com/questions/13907/…
Dec
3
comment When is a banana ripe enough to not cause constipation?
Is there some reference for this? Absent actual research inks, this seems as invalid of a guess as the opposite, sorry
Dec
3
comment Media Examples of Kind, Connected, Present, Engaged etc Father?
Heh. +1 for "good luck with that". At the risk of starting a political brou-ha-ha, modern entertainment deliberately shows fathers in the worst possible light - either as "missing and not necessary or missed", or "not missing but better off if were missing", or "bumbling Al Bundy morons". With precious few (I'd be hard pressed to name one) examples of what OP seeks.
Feb
20
comment What to read or learn before expecting?
@Beofett - I think one reason I'm willing to give "what to expect" a pass is because I'm benchmarking it against Sears' books. But yes, you expressed what I was hinting at. WTE is NOT geared towards people with Ana's needs, but most readers have completely different needs.
Feb
20
comment What to read or learn before expecting?
@Ana - may be you personally are qualified to read and understand through a meta-study covering exact effects of pollution, measuring specific chemical concentrations in your individual neighbourhood of your specific city and comparing the results to studies covering just that. I don't think it's fair to expect a generic book to get into that level of detail - and any book that does a LESSER level of detail is idiotic pseudo scientific mumbo jumbo pushing a political agenda. Generic "pollution" doesn't exist. There exist specific levels of specific pollutants w/ specific effects on a fetus
Feb
19
comment What to read or learn before expecting?
@ana - most people DO need to calm down, even Vulcans :)
Feb
19
comment What to read or learn before expecting?
You should quit reading and get some sleep. That's the last sleep you'll have for the next couple of years <g>
Dec
21
comment How to prevent “open air incidents”?
@Tim - donno... I don't have any skills other than Google-fu and neither of my 2 kids ever managed to nail me :) [ I used a second diaper technique ]
Dec
21
comment When is it appropriate to start explaining the religious components of the various holidays?
To be honest, most of the Christians around me ALSO have only the faintest of concepts of what Christmas is about (It's that sort of locale in USA). Ditto for most Russians - Christmas is now in vogue there but I severely doubt most of the people would know the deep religious details.